My wife and I together 7 years both been married before me once her well im number 5. Past seven years had been great ppl commented until around last christmas how close we were.distance grew between us and things bagan to fall apart rapidly she confessed to havibg an affair recently and a week ago agreed to no contact, I told her she would have to choose but if she chose him I didnt want her calling anymore. I have always been sure to do extra things for her backrubs often wash her back foot massages everything I could think of that might be special, was always sure to tell her I loved her many times thru the day.
We havent argued in 7 years untill the OM came along she quit her job when she agreed to no contact but wasnt willing to write the letter. today she went back to work to get her last check and she ran into him. she tells me we are back to square one again and she dosnt know where to turn.She is my one and only and I have no interest in anyother. Oh we did fill out the ENQ and amazingly we wanted the same things not that unusual for us we were always closly matched. same birthday and all. anyway she hasnt moved out or anything but I dont know how much more of this i can take...Im concidering kicking her out just so she can see for herself...But Im afaraid Ill never get her back. This is the hardest thing and the most hurtful thing I have ever experienced I lost my first wife to countless affairs I had only stayed because of the kids. we were together 15 years. Oh My wife and I she had never stayed with anyone before me more than a year or two. also she turns 40 in june this a factor she listens to teenie bopper music now and dresses the same which is annoying. But I really havent told her that

Infidelity on the husbands behalf. she had a rough childhood and spent alot of her time in foster care.
She really is goodhearted she is just really confused lately due to the other man and the hours she was working due to we found out last july im going blind from a horrindously rare disease sounds like a soap box opera! anyways We talked and as of about an hour ago I took her to be with the other guy she said till she figures out if thats what she needs or is why she is so unhappy. thru the past weeks I have done everything special I can think of she seems like she has a good day then a bad she is bipolar as well. See what I mean SOOOoooo lets see : Im disabled, She was working nights unable to get different hours to have family time, Turning 40 in june, Her van she loved so much was repossesed, Dr. put her on Prozac 40mg a day, Everything that could go wrong has no matter how hard I tried to fix it! Just really frustrated right now. I dont think this thing with the other guy will last and Im not so sure she was completely sold on going to the other man she was sayin one thing but acting like another.oh she also has epilepsey forgive my spelling please. dont know what to do.
Why do I want her back Before all this mess She brought me so much joy, Loved me so deeply, I have always been afraid to totally let go and fall in love with other ladies but she was so different I loved her at first sight.Cant say that for my first wife...anyways...Im thinkin positive in all this and she'll come home just may need some pointers.

TA,

Just a quick question. Did you and your wife meet each other while you were married?

No she and I were both seperated divorces were pending. Both were ugly relationships we didnt marry until a couple years later. I wanted to she wanted to wait

I had made up my mind last night that I wasnt going to talk to her...one thing led to another after several very nasty texts she called me and she cant understand what Im mad about. Gee...Shes sleepin with this other guy and Im supposed to say its ok ! Now she says she wants to come home and I hurt her feelings! I told her call me this morning if she still wants to and I would come get her.But If she stays one more night there isnt anything to negotiate.Ive been patient and caring to this point but the images going thru my mind are unbearable. and I dont know if I can deal with it anymore. I told her this was the final straw.!