WH sent me a note indicating that he cannot help his feelings for the other woman and has invited me to divorce him as he has given me the grounds to do this. He also indicated that he woudl do all the things to make sure that I get my fair 'compensation' for his affair/infidelity. He ends the letter wanting us to meet to discuss next steps - he has done this all through my Plan B period - and I fell for it once. He came round to our home last night to see our very ill cat - he broached this subject again and I was very upset because of the imminent demise of a much loved pet - he indicated that he wanted to help me move on, and by default reclaim some of our jointly owned assets - that he had nothing at the moment (he is renting a flat - which the OW spends a lot of time). He will reduce his contributions to the joint account from the end of this month - but he earns double what I earn. I am sure that I made DJ's and told him that as I have no one _ I must look out for myself and would not help him in amicably ending our marriage - he uses the phrase letting him move on a lot. Is the invitation and plea to do the right thing by him usual. I cannot find anything about Plan A or Plan B behaviour when the Plan D has been commenced by the wayward. I spoke too much as is usual and he just sat there in tears. Please advise as I am a bit lost and vulnerable.

Here's MB {{{hug}}} from me 2 u! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Sorry the WS is being such an azz. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

He isn't sincere about helping you. He trying to get you to enable his A with his weak gesture to 'help you move on.'

Let him cry, then tell him if he really wants to help you, he will relinquish all his material assets to you as a 'gesture' of his drive to 'move on'. After all, he needs to pay the price for abandoning his family. The OW ought to at the very least be worth him being penniless. LOL!!!

I pulled that stunt on mine way back when. Supposed the OW was 'wealthy' but not as she had lead him to believe. She even claimed to have more $$ than me.... ok....so do a lot of people but I still have my dignity and my values. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> OW had some $$ and even tried to buy me out. I gave both of them a high price....but I thought it was a bargain.

I asked the WS what he thought the monetary value w/b for selling his family up the river in exchange for a stinky lyin' OW. Dumb WS made the stupid mistake of saying his family was priceless. LOL!!

That opened the door to raise my asking price. I told him I'd give him a discount and start it at 1 million. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> He was shocked. I told him to go get it from his 'OW' and he said she wasn't that rich. At that I babbled back their own words and began to get angry that she had actually 'lied' about her financial success. LOL!!! Then demanded he go get 'my $$'. After all, he had already lost his pants at her house, so they already owed me. LOL!!!

Oooh the reverse babble continued for a long time....both the OW and WS were no match for my ability to twist their sordid words and throw it back at them. Finally after much haggling, I lowered the price to $87K. Pretty generous of me doncha think? Why 87k? Hm.... convenient #.....seems to be the same amount she refied her house for???? LOL!!! I definitely had my reasons. The OW wanted to cough up a mere $1400.00. Then I threw it back to the WS that he was just worth 1400. How cheap. More Reverse Babble (RB) followed.

Eventually the OW lost..... I let her keep her $$ because it was really blood $$. Besides...she smelled.... don't they all? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

haha, love ya RB, Orchid!

To Chivers,

Why'd he ask you to D him? Because he doesn't have the courage to do it? Make himself feel better so he can tell ppl that "SHE divorced ME??"

WS's are all stinking cowards

Look, not that this is really an issue of "fair compensation" to you because it is reallly an issue of him getting some stuff out of your house and getting to continue with OW. But, all that aside, if there were no marriage involved-- She is Head of Human Resources, and he makes twice as much as you????? Together, they make a lot of money compared to you!!

Yes, it sounds normal for a WS who has commenced plan D to plead and invite you to "do the right thing" meaning, let him have his own way with as little trouble and guilt for him as possible. His tears--wah, wah, wah--pitty party for himself that he cannot have his own way and also have you smile and say that you are fine with it all.
Using Reverse babble sounds like a good idea to me
Lake