Ok so for 6 months now I've been trying my best to meet EN, been blocked at every turn for the most part. I've not LB'd other than one time recently, and that was with DD not W. Yet W is telling me she wants no communication with me at all. Nothing other than "I'll pick up the kids at this time, and you drop them off at x time, ect." That's all. I tried to say I believe we need a better relationship than that for our kids sake, and she was flat out "no we don't".

Has anyone dealt with this behavior from a WW before? I believe she's involved in an EA, so maybe that's the driving force behind this behavior?

Such total refusal to work on M, and even have any contact is very painful. I'll be ok, but damn it's hard and I don't understand it.

Maybe she just doesn't want to give me any way at all to get back into her heart after all the damage I've done?

Your insights are appreciated...

- TTM

TTM...

I would say that you need to be snooping to confirm an affair...Once confirmed you must expose the affair to kill it...

Can you hire a private investigator? Put a digital voice activated recorder in her car?

Mrs. W

I'm beyond the point of needing to snoop. She's in an EA for sure. I'm just wondering if that's normal behavior for someone in an EA?

The only reason I question is that she's been poking around match.com and went on a date with someone her g/f set her up with.

The person she's involved in the EA with is M. So maybe she's looking around because she can't go there with him?

Questions, I guess no real answers...

_TTM

Her affair needs to be exposed to any and all persons that can put pressure on the affair to end...Affairs thrive in secrecy...Are you going to expose this affair TTM? The married man's wife needs to know for sure...

Yes, I would say that her responses are common...There is nothing normal about affairs, yanno?

Mrs. W