I have been really struggling with all of this this week. I have been considering writing the OW's parents a letter, so that maybe they can talk some sense into her and get her to see that she is trying to destroy my family. I realize that my WH is doing the same. This has been so hard to deal with. I read these posts and I just don't know how all of you do it. He tells me that he love her and that not talking to her is killing him, so if that is the case why is he home with me? If he loves her so much, why doesn't he just be with her and leave me alone. I guess I am just having a hard time understanding and feel the need to understand. When we are together, we have a good time and I feel like he enjoys being there most of the time. I am trying very hard to meet his needs, but I feel like mine are not being met and I don't know how much more I can take. I love him and want this family to work and I am willing to do whatever I can, but not at the sake of my own sanity.

Just having a bad week and need some encouragement. Am I doing the right thing, by letting him come back when he tells me he don't know if he can do this?

"If he loves her so much, why doesn't he just be with her and leave me alone."- because OW meets only some of his needs. What needs is she meeting and you aren't?

What needs can you meet of his that would make him feel wonderful?

jambear, yes, it is an excellent idea to contact her parents. That is usually a very impactful exposure. I would suggest picking up the phone and just calling so you can answer any questions.