First -due to financial issues, neither of us have filed for a divorce. Financial issues being we don't want to split everything and start over. We have a nice income, home, cars, etc. My attorney feels that my current situtation is better than filing for D right now.

BUT...WH as of January has been partially cohabitating with current gf. He goes to her house on Friday and comes home on Monday or Tuesdays.
I see that he is spending thousands every month on her and "thier" lifestyle. Some of that money is also spent on his adult children.
It really wouldn't matter to me, except that everytime anything outside of the utilities comes up he demands that I pay half. I don't think that is fair since he pays himself 3 times what I earn at our business.
IMHO - if he wants a gf then he should still be supporting his current home and wife and any "extra" should go to the gf. If he doesn't want to support our home then he should file for D or move in with current gf. full time.

Is this something that my attorney should be made aware of?

The next time he asks me for money - I need to to tell him in a very non-confrontational way that No - I am not paying for whatever it is, and tell him nicely that if he wants to live two lives he needs pay for that -not me.

Any suggestions on how to word that would be helpful..

Hugs

I have nothing for you on this one. In most cases, people just stop paying bills in the divorce, so you are ahead if he's still paying them. If you stop paying, than the likely outcome is that he will stop paying. You could suggest that you pay bills in relation to income, but he may begin "charging" you for more than you are paying already (he does need to support his new lifestyle somehow).

You may need to notify your attorney because it seems the game has changed in relation to finances, and it will only get worse.

I tell my attorney everything I pay or what she spends (that I know of.)

.........Of course my D is almost done and she is a manipulator.