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Mortarman - funny this thread popped up. I had a freind ask me last night to check here for a question she has.

She was married to a man that became violent - threatened her life - tried to kill her -etc. (btw - navy seal...)

She ran from it for many years, feared for her life, but remained faithful to the covenant. Two or three years ago they had a child. She now has another life to protect, and her XH was (edit)and is(end edit) still violent. Friends of theirs told her she should sleep with a gun. She sought counsel (at church) and eventually divorced him.

She has a friend that told her she can not re-marry according to scripture, but I think the "taking it to the church and the church ruling" issue applies here.

I am not sure how far she took it "to the church", and if the church ruled on him.

Does anyone want to weigh in on this issue?

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BK - thank you for your input. I really appreciate it.

Mortar - I would like to collect as many opions on this from a biblical perspective as possible. Have you a comment?


foundareason - the last time someone asked me for some advice "on behalf of someone else" it turned out that they were really asking for their own situation. Any chance this is really about you?

A couple of questions if I may. You may have already addressed these and I may have missed the answers, but if you wouldn't mind repeating, I would appreciate the answers as a help in guiding potential responses.

Is your friend a Christian?
Is her husband a Christian?
Are you "involved" with this woman?
They ARE divorced, so on what basis is the "church" (denomination unknown) telling her that she cannot remarry?

"Should not," "May not," and "Can not" are all different things. On what basis is "Can not" applied to forgiveness from God? "Can not" is a self-imposed restriction on God, BY God Himself and is perhaps better stated as "Will not." God has the ability, the capacity, to do anything He wills.

So what is it that forms the basis of "a friend that told her she can not re-marry according to scripture?"

Looking forward to hearing more about this situation.

God bless.
FH – no – not about me, and nothing going on except a fledgeling friendship. Not “involved”, just a friend.


She and her ex are Christians. She is faithful to God and to the church and involved in many ministries. I do not think he is. Regional So-Cal “non-denominational” church – very baptist feeling.

The person who told her is a friend of hers from a bible study.

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So what is it that forms the basis of "a friend that told her she can not re-marry according to scripture?"
I am dense, and not sure what you are asking here.

Thanks for the interest.

Any comments will be forwarded to her. Or she may read here herself.

far


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She sought counsel (at church) and eventually divorced him.

She has a friend that told her she can not re-marry according to scripture, but I think the "taking it to the church and the church ruling" issue applies here.

I am not sure how far she took it "to the church", and if the church ruled on him.


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So what is it that forms the basis of "a friend that told her she can not re-marry according to scripture?"


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I am dense, and not sure what you are asking here.


far - the first quote indicates that counsel was sought and apparently received from the church. The implied result was she was counseled to divorce and acted upon that counsel, but it's equally possible she may chosen divorce on her own.

If the church counsel was to divorce, I am trying to get a feel for the rationale used and the second quotation is an extension of the assumption that the church "endorsed" a divorce and is now saying she cannot remarry. There is a seeming dicotomy of advice here that I'm trying to understand before commenting or offering opinions/advice.

With respect to the husband being a Christian, on what basis is that assessment being made? His actions would seem to be very contrary to a believer.

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Frog,

I wanted to let you know that I will be addressing some of your points when I get the time to do so. I may begin a new thread and call you there, if it is OK with you, since this thread seems to be going along quite well on it's own. I know you feel that this thread may be the proper place, but our debate is interspersed with other questions that I think may often be simpler and more easily answered without a long treatise from either of us thrown into the mix. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Many of the people already posting on this thread already accept the authority of the Bible to address issues pertaining to marriage, and that was its original audience. So I will address your most recent post in a new thread, once I have the time to sit down and write a response.

Gotta get to my "honey do list." Can't make Honey mad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Mark

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