People should not read other peoples diaries. People should not read other peoples private notes or information.
I am again and again experiencing a frightening epidemic here in Mbers of condoning , promoting and accepting the invasion of others privacy.
Somehow it is the concensus here that if someone believes something is going on , then that gives them the right to forgo the spouses rights to not have their privacy invaded. This is complete BS.
It would be in peoples best interest to let go of the behavior of making the major role in this site to be involved in infidility.
Just take a look at the posts and which areas on the forum they are actually posted most recently in.
Everyone wants to wahh wahh my spouse is bad.
They might be cheating.
I think they are cheating.
My spouse is unavailable to me emotionally.This one is explained by not accepting that they have free will , let them breathe in life. IE: Quit stalking their very thoughts at home and on the internet.
I believe a gread deal of this advice here at mbrs to be counterproductive , and drama central.
And if you are saying just do not come here. Well don't sweat it folks. After this post ,I am gone. I have lost hope in mbers.
I suggest you quit handing out info such as , use a logger, it is easy to follow their tracks.
That AINT trust. it simply is not. And catching someone ****** around is just that. When yousee it, then startt being paranoid.
Otherwise do your job as a spouse and PROMOTE the relationship. Not tear it down with paranoia and delusion.


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Gandolf, I actually happen to agree with you. I find myself "hiding" my thoughts and opinions on certain matters out of fear of being attacked for them. It is not the safest environment here for freely expressing oneself.

Well, I do not want to TRASH mbers, some good people here, and some good people who could learn some things. same as me or anyone else. It is just this internet , cell phone , PI, is my spouse cheating garbage that , just does not seem conducive to building a marriage. It feels like feeding a sickness.
We need to learn , educate and move forward.
Freaking out, checking phone bills, watching someones every movement just does not seem healthy.
I just hope we could see people address more issues to do with trust than feeding paranoid delusions.
When you catch your mate screwing or , kissing. Thats a really good indicator. Before that ,if you want to grow with someone you cannot keep feeding negative ideas about them betraying you. thats letting insecurity and jealousy rule.
Not good

It isn't healthy.
I am spouse who was lied to and betrayed and whose concerns were dismissed all due to my H's own fears and pride.....it caused me to feel paranoid, which is an awful and healthy feeling.
we were in a very unhealthy cycle.