Hello, I found out 9 months ago that my H of 7years was having an affair with a women that he worked with. I always thought that it was happening, but was never able to find out the truth. Then I walked in on them one day at his work. My life has never been the same....He told me that it was because of me, and that he didn't feel loved by me any more...didn't know if he wanted to be married to me anymore...that I forced him to marry me....that the OW was conpassionate, caring and they enjoyed talking and being around each other. The first couples of months were terrible, he wouldn't talk, wouldn't listen, did pretty much what he wanted to do...told me that I wasn't going to make him do anything he didn't want to do...during this whole time, continuing to talk to the OW everyday at work, on the phone at night etc...During time things have gotten a little better, but he told me last night that he still cares for the OW, that he cares that she is hurting...I don't know what I should do....Should I just let go of him, and move on????

Welcome to Marriage Builders, loving_fool,

Sorry for your circumstances but glad you found MB.

Not many posters venture to this Other Topic forum. You will receive responses quicker if you repost on the GQII forum.

I'm still a newbie but many veterans are very willing to help. My prayers are with you.

Ace

thanks for the help.

Maybe you could try being more compassionate at this point. try to talk to him and work out your problems.