Hello all. First, I thank everyone who read and responded to my call. I am doing somewhat...no, much better. My WH is home, but now I can't help but look at him and wonder if the A is really over?

He has an appt. next week for an std check, at my request. He has promised to go for indiv. counsel., but no appt. has been made. He has been affectionate at night, but I just don't believe him when he has agreed to NC. He still works at the university and she's still enrolled.

I did a little investigation and found that she is not married as was told to me. My WH said, "Well, she lied to me then." I'm thinking to myself, "No kidding?" I found out where her parents live and I parked in front of their home yesterday. I was sitting there wanting a glimpse of her. I wanted to see where she grew up. I wanted to see if my WH would drive up.

I'm making myself crazy. I look into his eyes for a sign. I crazily think I will be able to tell if he's seen her. If I didn't know for the past 5 mths. it's insane to think I'd be able to tell now! He says he loves me and I do believe him. He has expressed remorse and pain; There are statements of, "I'm sorry." "I don't want to lose you, because I want us to grow old together." "Just let me show you that I will be better."

My question is this: Even though I called the little strumpet, I don't believe the A is over, because she's a student at the school. I have told no one except my WH maternal aunt. How can I be sure? How will I know?

Her ugly words haunt me:"He's a grown man and he knows what he wants." "What are you calling me for, you should be talking to your husband."

I am thinking to myself, ....out of the mouths of babes, because she's 28 years old. She's no kid though. She's a hot (I imagine) and tough little nut that he's been cracking.