Holy crap, I did not notice that. ONE YEAR later, to the day of my registration, whoa, that is WEIRD. WHOA!

SL,

Good work.

To me the most impressive thing is your overall improvement.

I honestly believe that you used Plan A and Plan B to improve yourself and it worked. You became more Lucid and clear. The things you wanted and deserved you articulated in a clear fashion.

All the conditions you have placed make complete sense for a person that clearly respects themselves and expects others to do the same.

Your WH/FWH is a truly lucky man that you are willing to try to recover from his misdeeds.

I hope he knows how lucky he is that when he asked for his family back you had enough love for him to give it another try.

Now Raise your right hand, cross it over to your left shoulder and give yourself a Pat. That is from me.

Thanks Frog!

I see my husbands eyes and I want for him to be happy again, too. If I looked at him and didn't care, I would know that I was finished.

I feel confident that we will do our best together. The outcome depends on both of us pulling our weight, not just me trying to force the cart. He's gotta deal with withdrawal right now, and I do not envy that in the least.

I have enough love for my family, certainly, and I do have enough love for my husband. I will have my own demons to deal with , my triggers, my sadness. Now, I hope that he will be there to comfort me, to ride the wave of guilt that WILL come from these triggers. I see pain as temporary. It almost always passes and better things take it's place, so I'm okay.

I was just getting ready to shut down my happy little Mac for the night, and thought to myself...

No, wait...I need to thank SL again and let her know how much what she said meant to me. For telling me that PWC treated you and sweet little DS like [censored]. That he became someone you didn't recognize.

And that he is now sitting there with you on the couch, legs in your lap. That there really was an H underneath that nasty wayward-ness.

So...thank you for recognizing the feeling behind my words...and for giving me perspective.

Nightie-night.

SL- I am soooooo happy for you. I am being to think there is hope for my stich.

Your DH better do everything he can to make recovery happen because if he breaks DS and your heart again I'm going to have to give him a swift kick. LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

How did I miss this thread...I am floored! I am so happy for you! I really did expect this after the last false recovery...when you mentioned some of the things H was saying after a "failed" attempt at recovery.

You will make it...you have all the tools...and you can laugh, which is the best medicine.

HAPPY DANCE is in full swing !! HOORAY!


(now the plan B graduate status makes sense!!! duh!) I knew that is what it meant, but I hadn't read this yet...sooo now I really get it!
IHC

Hey Marflow,

Thank you for chiming in. You have been with me for a long time, and I know what you are going through. I had that EUREKA moment where I was READY for divorce; I didn't WANT it but I was ready, no emotion, no craziness, just PREPARED. Plan B did wonders for me, as well as all of the support and 2x4s I got here.

IHC, thanks for catching up there, chief! I am so happy that you are in that place IN plan B where you can be HAPPY again. Rough going, but you got there. What trooopers you guys are!

Now, on to recovery ( as I strap on my golden bracelets, golden lariat of truth and golden WONDER WOMAN TIARA...)

((((((((((((((((SL)))))))))))))))))

(((((((((((((PWC))))))))))))

you go wonder woman!.............and you truly are a wonder!

so so so so happy for you and PWC........sounds like hes got the right idea now. he finally opened his eyes and your light was there shinning to guide him home.

btw.......chesseburgers are the BEST way to celebrate.

Silent:

I had started a betting pool on your other thread that PWC would be back.

Guess we all missed the date!

However, I will not start a betting pool as to how long this will last.

Cuz between MEDC and Myself, we got all the escape routes covered.....

Keep Smiling!

And PWC: Recovery is tough. But if you really try, you will never, ever be tempted by OW again...

Stay with it!

((SL))

LG

Just wanted to pop in and say congrats on your big news!!

MAZ

We haven't heard much lately. I hope that is good news and that you are having a great Mother's Day.

SL, did you hear the one about Wonder Woman sun tanning nude on the roof? I hope so because it's x-rated and I wont be able to post it here without the moderators censoring most of it.

BTW, I'm really happy for you and hope this is IT!

WARNING! DANGER! THREADJACK AHEAD!!

[threadjack] (waving) Hi, HopeThisWorks!! How about an update? Just wondering how you are... [/threadjack]

Thank you citizens...you may now return to your regularly scheduled thread, already in progress...


--CJ

It's a GOOD SIGN when there is not much posting during EARLY RECOVERY..it's SOOOO HARD....lots of TIME AND FOCUS on the MARRIAGE....

(((SL))))..thinking of you....

Hi FWCJ!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I am doing VERY, VERY, well thank you. This morning on my drive to work I had an epiphany and realized that I'm finally READY for the big D. I just felt this calmness and peacefulness come over me much like SL had mentioned she felt a short while ago.

I'm happy again and feel like the old me (with MB improvements) has slowly morphed back and is ready to turn the page in the next chapter of my life.

About 4 weeks ago I accepted an invitation from my WW for coffee expecting her to show a desire for reconciliation, however when I realized she was still exhibiting a wayward attitude I became upset with myself for being pulled out of my Plan B. It was the first time I had met with her in 8 months and that meeting has only strengthened my resolve not to accept crumbs from her anymore. I haven't had ANY contact with her since then.

I know what I want in a woman now and she is a long way from being that type of person.

Plan B has given me my self-respect back and given me the time to reflect on what happened. I now realize that her A was all about her. Sure I didn't meet her most important EN's, however she made the choice to look outside our M to have them filled and took the easy way out.

I don't know if I could remain with a woman who I don't trust or respect as I had her placed on a pedestal prior to the A and now I wouldn't give her the time of day if I met her on the street.

I don't think my WW is happy at all even though she conveys content with a superficial smile. I guess she thought I was the cause of her unhappiness and now that I'm removed from her life she may be forced to look in the mirror at the true source or her discontent. What an awakening that must be!

My 2-year D-day anniversary will be in a couple of weeks and I can't believe how much has happened and how much I have changed. I wish there was a fast-forward button for many of the new BS's here as I can certainly empathize with them.

So everything is going very well and I'm even getting a lot of interest from women now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> It feels great to be treated with admiration and kindness from other woman and that only confirms what I will accept from a woman in my life.

It is ALL good! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Sorry for the threadjack SL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Silent.....we are all wishing you the best, but in the mean time all this threadjacking will keep you at the top of the list....where you belong:) HI PWC!!! (waving really fast like a kid) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />



HTW...sooooo there. i am actually excited for my life...new turns, adventures, loves...who knows, i feel like a college kid ready to embark on my life. and finally feeling free from all the stress I was holding in!!



Ditto, I'm not settling anymore!!!!



thanks I think I will take that FF button:) my D day was 7 months ago....man, time flies when your havn your heart ripped out and yr life rearended! but i did get there quick. maybe its a blessing in disguise? I haven't felt this alive in years.

silent, we will be very patient and allow you all the time in the world with PWC.....you've got important work to do !!!!