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FWH and MOW were together for 3.5 weeks on a trip together. During that time, each day OW would say the Rosary.
Can anyone explain this? I'm not Catholic. What is the Rosary, exactly. I know it is a series of prayers to Mary.
I'm just trying to understand, what were her motives here? What she looking for justification? Acceptance?
What?
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rlt ~ I think looking at her motives as to why she prayed the rosary versus any other type of prayers is pretty fruitless...any type of praying during an A is a joke, IMO. Praying the rosary is simply asking Mary to intercede on our behalf, to pray for and with us. I don't know what she woulda been asking Mary to pray for her about...that God would bless their illicit affair? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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I nearly choked when my FWH told me (in the middle of their A) that he and OW prayed together for her custody situation. Talk about prayers falling straight back to the ground. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
P.S. She was Catholic, he was not.
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mf, I know it's fruitless to try and figure any of it out, but I still do.
pm---in my sitch, they went to church together. (Not Catholic, though) Go figure ...
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Here is how the Rosary is prayed The Rosary Praying the Rosary during an A makes no sense. How can a Catholic devoted enough to pray the Rosary participate in something that hurts the God they're praying to. Sounds like she was putting on a front. Nothing more.
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Sounds like she was putting on a front. Nothing more. Ditto. Or so fogged out, that praying while doing something so reprehensible actually made sense to her.
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HOW does someone actually believe they could put on a front--to God?????
That is truly baffling ...
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Ditto what everyone else said---this woman is outside her OWN MIND!
A rosary is asking the Virgin Mary to pray (intercede) for you to God, as well as a meditation of Jesus' life. I can't tell you what XOW was praying FOR, but obviously any prayer said WHILE SINNING isn't going to sit well with GOD. DUH.
What a piece of work she is!
Sorry for your pain,
J, Catholic
married 20y
3 kids
OC (child from the affair) 8yo
Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. -Mother Teresa
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I'm a FWW, catholic, and prayed while I was having an affair.
I prayed for strength to STOP. I also confessed my sin to the priest.
It worked.
~Saturn
Me: 45
Him: 47
married 23 years
Two wonderful sons
D-day for my EA: 8/15/04
D-day for his PAs: 8/16/06
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For what it's worth, the most charitable explanation I can think of is much like SaturnRising says. OW knew she was doing wrong and was praying for the strength to stop doing it. That, or she was just fogged out and trying to make herself feel less dirty by praying. I am Catholic, as is my WW. Her solution to feeling ashamed in the eyes of God was to turn away from Him by denying His very existence. I don't think one can hide forever, though. The illusion must require lots of energy to sustain.
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