Well, we had a WONDERFUL time!!! At the airport I was very nervous, and it turned out she was too. But I recognized her immediately. She looks just like she did 21 years ago!

We all went out to eat at a restaurant on the beach on the way home. Then we got up and went to the county fair on Sunday. We went to Mexico on Monday. And yesterday we tried to teach her to surf, explored the tide pools,and ate on the pier. Then today we took her back to the airport.

My sons got along GREAT with her. They were like 3 peas in a pod. They quickly made plans to meet in San Francisco for the next visit. Then she is coming back in August.

She remembered so many things that I had forgotten - things that we bought for her, like a play oven that really worked, and a kitchen with dishes and play food.

She told us about life with her mom, which wasn't good. Her mom only kept her a year, and then gave her up to her sister. I explained to her that we wanted her, but her mom wouldn't sign any papers.

The only uncomfortable time was when we were talking about her hometown, and she blurted out that her mom always joked that she was conceived in the bathroom at a local bar. That shocked me. I knew that my ex had cheated, but didn't realize it was in the bathroom at a bar. YUCK. And what a thing to tell a child.

I can't help but cry for all the years that you missed. Such a bittersweet story. I'm so glad you found each other again.

Thank you SO MUCH for sharing this story believer. I needed to read something uplifting today.

I'm so happy that she got to visit and all went well.

I had checked into the sibling DNA test before my husband finally agreed to do the DNA. It is way more expensive than a regular paternity test.

Yes, everyone said that the DNA test seemed to be expensive. And the other thing is that it proved they were siblings with 89.5% accuracy, which is different than a paternal test.

They have all been in contact daily, and it really warms my heart.

Well, my boys just dropped their sister off at the airport. She came down for another visit last week. She brought a friend, and they went to Disneyland, surfing, the acquarium, Universal Studios, and the tide pools. They had a wonderful time.

Sadly, I'm in Seattle taking care of my dad, and I missed her.

She has continued to email them daily, and calls several times a week.

They have still not told their aunt (dad's sister) that they have been seeing their sister. Their aunt was very much against them knowing about the OC. She doesn't even know that paternity has been proven. I'm leaving it up to them whether to tell her or not. My older son is quite angry with her.

This has been such a blessing, and I often feel like her father would be so proud of the way she has turned out. Her aunt doesn't know the joy she is missing. It is somewhat bittersweet.

>Her aunt doesn't know the joy she is missing.

Perhaps that is okay for her.

What is joy for US might not be joyful for someone else, kwim?

Or maybe she's just a grumpy ol' stick in the mud?

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Believer~

Great to hear things are going so well for you, your boys and their sister.

"What is joy for US might not be joyful for someone else, kwim?"

That is exactly right. I always want to help people, even if they don't want help. Auntie is a lonely person - her mom and dad and both of her brothers are dead. She does have grown sons who have their own lives.

The OC lives in her city and is just delightful. She was older than my sons, and has many wonderful memories of her dad. Also she looks just like him. Auntie is really missing out, but you are right, and I'm gonna leave it alone.

Autumn - Life is good, and this is all so exciting. It's been over two months now, and they are becoming great friends. And they are doing it all on their own, without my input!!!!!

>Or maybe she's just a grumpy ol' stick in the mud?

From Believer's post, it sounds like it.

Are you included on some fun Believer? It sounds like you're fit to burstin'! I'm so happy for you. I remember you telling me a long time ago about OC. I'd die if my OC were taken away now.

Curl.

Up.

And.

Die.

I can't imagine loving a child like that to have them taken...

Just bumping this up for duck.

I didn't realize how long it's been. My sons' and their sister are still in daily contact. They continue to be like three peas in a pod.