Don't worry!

No more bologna for you!

Bosley will be there with bail money,or the UPS man can deliver us some good food!

What's happenin', chris? Did ya run out of bourbon?

The big D has been delayed for me again. No definate date at this time but probably in August. Darn criminal trials take precedence. Maybe I shoulda woodchippered WH, I'd be in court sooner. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Just kidding!

Check in when ya can. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Fox

I thought I was next in the d-line....then it got d-railed.

Hi Cowgirl!


No one would convict you.

What a weekend.

DD19 badly sprained her ankle helping me at a boy’s basketball practice last Wednesday Night. She could not work her lifeguard job Thursday or Friday but they could not replace her for Saturday. I felt somewhat responsible for her situation and although her ankle was improving I decided to sit with her at her community pool and sort of be the lifeguard for the lifeguard. I did to toting and baling getting the chairs and umbrellas set up then sat down to read my book all afternoon.

Enter Frau DivorcenGruppenFuhrer Carmen and her loyal squad of Frau DivorcenGrenadiers. I was something between a steak in the starving Doberman pen and the token male guest on The View. I was grilled and questioned and analyzed by a funny and wonderful group of divorced woman for hours. They alternated between trying to embarrass me and pump me for information. Every now and then some MBesqe stuff would come out of me regarding relationships and emotional needs and how the failure to meet each others emotional need leaves our marriage vulnerable to its destruction. Normal stuff talked about here everyday was all brand new to this crowd and they loved it. I am in a totally comfortable, happy and laid back Plan A. That’s a way of life now.

People come and go and in the afternoon I am called over to my second interview (Spanish Inquisition?) with the Frau DivorcenGrenadiers. They have summoned a new squad member to their group and I am thinking, “Oh oh. This must be the sniper.”

Of course they have it arranged so I will be sitting next to her. We all talk and laugh for a half hour or so when Frau DivorcenGruppenFuhrer Carmen suddenly announces, “Ladies, I think we should leave these two alone to talk. Can’t you see how well they get along? Don’t they look sweet together? Ta-ta.” And off go the Grenadiers and their evil genius Leader to plan their next assault.

Long story short;
- She is a funny, smart, educated and attractive woman who has been divorced for 1-1/2 years.
- We did go to dinner at a sidewalk café and did have a very nice time.
- We talk seriously about whatever this is or is not, could or will never be, it has to go very slowly and very carefully and that there will be no casualties and there will be nothing but complete honesty.

Here is the warning to all the MB Dee’s: Yes you must be keenly aware of your own rebound relationship vulnerabilities, but you also must understand and be careful with how much power the MB knowledge and your growth through Plan A and B (and for me Plan D) has brought you. You are an Iowa Class Battleship cruising right through the wooden ship Battle of Trafalgar. They simply can’t hurt you if you won’t let them but you could devastate them. Speaking for the men, what you have learned and now understand about the nature of relationships and emotional needs is extremely attractive to women. Believer mentioned that a few posts ago and it is true. Don’t use it wrongly and don’t hurt anyone.

No time wasted. It's good to sit with someone new and talk about things without all of that BAGGAGE, isn't it. It must be a bit freeing.

Recovery is not so. I think I have a perpetual knot in my stomach, to the point that digestion is hindered. STRESS abounds, for me, because I am constantly trying to watch what and HOW I say things. I think things will get better as we go along. I don't understand all of the tension I'm having, as I keep reminding myself that this is just PWC; we know each other. Truth is that things have changed, and I am unsure if I'm going to like the changes or be in divorce court in a years time.

I never thought I would prefer divorce over recovery, never in a million years, but I think about it sometimes. Not so that I can go out and find someone else, just to escape the pain, the frustration, my perceived humiliation (at being cheated on repetitively), pride, etc. and so on.

Anyway, sounds like you had a lovely time. I think it's wise to remind yourself and others that hurting others is quite easy to do, especially when you are armed with so much knowledge, and may be more apt to throw this one or that one back for a better mate. It's best to take things quite slowly, and to be honest about where you are.

Of course, you know all of this.

Now, I ponder often why it is so easy for a MB man to be so quickly taken, but why it seems it may be much harder for the MB women. One reason could be that many of the women have children. Depending on age, and maturity, that can be a real downer for men. Meh, I don't need to cross that bridge, but some women here may.

Well, must go now, as my stomach is doing some sort of growling that has nothing to do with hunger. Be AFRAID, Be very AFRAID... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Hi SL! It is good to hear from you.

Scrooge told the Ghost of Christmas Future, "Spirit, I fear you most of all the other apparitions I have seen tonight.”

That’s how I always felt about recovery. I wanted my chance at it and regret it never happened but make no mistake, I feared it the most.

The emotional challenges must be incredible.

No one here is better prepared than you to get through it.

Wayzilla is going to have a MENTAL BREAKDOWN when she finds out from your DD (whenever she finally talks to her) that you are dating again. Sure, she wanted her freedom from you, but she didn't want you to move on. You were supposed to be there waiting for her if she ever changed her mind. Be prepared for some serious DRAMA in the next few months. WAYZILLA will not be able to keep it together.

Chris, I wish I had more confidence. Yes, I have the tools, but applying them to something new is always a challenge. Also, I'm not alone in recovery, so I must consider what and how PWC needs to work this out.

I think I am beginning to realize how difficult this really is going to be, so I am working up a way to deal with the stress. I really think a change is due in my lifestyle. I have been sedentary for quite some time now (over about 6 months), and I need to get it into gear. I need to get back to working on me again. I really am stressed. I think exercise will do me a world of good. I feel slight depression in the form of anxiety right now, so I need an outlet. I just let out a big sigh thinking about all of the mental, emotional and physical work.

I need to just get off of my [censored] and get er done.

Come out West, SL. We'll take a float down the river!

Fox

SL, Light A Match!!

Chris, I'm with you brother. I've never felt like such a piece of meat in all my life. They're [email]d@mn[/email] near jumping out of the bushes lately.

Now I've got 2 blondes moving in across the street. Looks like mother and daughter, one in her 40's the other 20's. Both looking back waving and smiling. Me standing at the BBQ pit in the drive way. Beer in one hand, tongs in the other, and jaw dropped in disbelief.

I don't know what I looked like from across the street, but they appeard to get a kick out of it.

I have another neighbor that had a single and cute friend visit last Fri. She tells the neighbor she thinks I'm Soooo cute and would go on a date if I asked her.

So I've done everything but lock myself in the house and I still can't escape it.

What's a Plan D BS to do? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Infidelity diet + MB = meat on a stick <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I guess this is the part where we enjoy life again.

Can't wait to meet your new GF. I won't embarass you. I promise. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

BC, the bathroom may alight in flames! AND, most people do really love the meat on a stick, even if it reduces them to canabalism...or being at a Renaissance Festival...Beau, with your smarts, and whit, and sheer rugged good looks, I fear for you. Run AWAY Run AWAY...

And, Chris, BC WILL embarrass you, but what are good friends for, huh?


Foxy, I may just take you up on that offer one day. I'm sort of back in limbo land, too though. I can't make any major decisions without including PWC. I was getting used to making these decisions on my own. Now, I have new people in my life, that I would like to actually MEET, face to face, but cannot do right now. It's all so crazy. My M comes first, as it must, and should. Trying to get back into the Married frame of mind is a task not to be taken lightly.

Hey Chris shouldn't you be posting over on:

"Living Together Before Marriage" ???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm just busting your [email]b@!!5[/email] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I think Jim is right though.

Oh, I'm with jim and M2L, WZ is gonna lose it when she hears that you are dating. She won't have anywhere to vent. Who's gonna want to sit through a conversation with her about YOU dating someone, and how that makes her feel? Most will look at her as if she's done gone and lost her mind, wondering what the point of leaving you was, if she was going to balk at your dating. Now, THAT would be an interesting conversation, except it might be hard to see each other through the fog generated from WZ's blathering.

If you have even seen the movie "Excalibur", there is a point in the movie where Arthur's sister, Morgana, me thinks, is chanting, something that Merlin, me thinks, taught her to do or told her to do or something like that, and fog is steadily eminating from her mouth. That is what 'fog babble' must look like...

How about we all meet at the Apple River in Minnesota for a day long tube float? BC won't get far from the kegger tube.

It will be tethered to my leg. If the kegger goes down, I'm going down with it. It's part of my no keg left behind policy.

BC-

My DD25 wanted me to tell you she saw your pic on the MB photo album and she thinks you're cute too (just like the neighbor's single friend)...plus you can cook-or at least grill. Add in that you are great dad, and you're a triple threat!

You might need to add bars to your windows and bolt lock your doors. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

What's going on around here these days?

I get busy with work and find out everyone is "getting the hookup" over here!

Too cool!

BC, a triple threat! WTG!

SL...

It was the "Charm of Making..."

And when I here waywords talking that is the scene that jumps instantly to mind. lol! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

If we all meet in MN then we'll have to see if Fox can trailer her horses there. I'll bring some of mine and we can go for an MB trail ride. (Or maybe form the MB Calvary <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />).

Hang in there!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> That's for DD25

Oh, and I CAN cook, but only Cajun food <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Walking,

Somebody's gonna have to pull me and the keg in a wagon. I won't be in any shape to ride a horse. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

No problem BC. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

We have a couple of ponies that are trained to pull. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

We can fill the wagon with hay for all those MBer's unable to ride. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

A good time should be had by all. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Don't forgit to invite Rin / Striv'n.