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BC: It's part of my no keg left behind policy.


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WTF, an MB trail ride sounds GREAT to me! We'll tie BC on or pull him in an Indian travois. As long as he is close to the keg, doesn't sound like he'll mind. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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I am all about riding again!

Yippy Ty Yi Yo Rocking To and Fro!


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Looks like BC with a beard <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


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Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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BC can't play the Gee-Tar and I haven't grown a beard since 01. But you know what, replace that Gee-Tar with a keg and I would run through the woods bare foot to get to it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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I am all about riding again!


Why, whatever do you mean Chris, hmmmm? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


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Hey SDguy and BC; When are we ever going to see one of those “callout” threads for our special brand of help? I suppose it would look something like:

**SDguy, Betrayed Cajun, chrisner! Whippeddklsspuppy Needs Urgent Help on Gas Grills, Woodchippers, Bud Light, Laundry Detergent and Sippy Cups**

Should happen any time now.


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It's commin, I can FEEL it....wait, that might be the Mexican Buffet I had for lunch.

SL, got a match?


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Beau--mexican food--a stray flame

Sounds like one h3ll of a weapon to me!


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Well, it does explain further the previous FFFFAAAARRRTTTT post!


BW 35 (Me) WH 35 DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3 Married 1994 Dday 7-9-06 Plan B started 12-24-06 Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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Independence Day marked my 3rd full week of divorce. The house refinance for Wayzilla’s cash payout for her half of the equity should be complete in the next week. Outside of the investments being split most everything required by the agreement is complete.

It is kind of like parachuting out a burning plane. When you hit the ground the divorce is final but you still are tangled in the chute cords. Just a few more to cut through and I am out.

Wayzilla has not seen DD19 since the weekend after DD’s apartment at college was robbed a month ago. That uncomfortable reunion ended with Wayzilla spontaneously barfing in the parking lot at the apartment complex for no apparent reason. She had not complained about being ill to DD and apparently did not have any drinks the night before. Hmmmmm, wonder what’s bugging her?

I heard a rumor that Gollum returned to his wife in May and she withdrew her petition for their divorce. That timeline would fit well with Wayzilla’s physical and emotional downward spiral. But in truth, I am not going to waste any time to substantiate it. It either is or is not true and makes no difference one way or the other. Wayzilla always spewed the fog that the affair and the marriage had nothing to do with each other. She will die alone before she admits this was not true.

She called DD last Saturday and proudly told her she has colored her hair red. Now there is a first big step in her necessary and probable long and difficult personal recovery.

DD19 now has knicknamed her "Lucy".

I had a second date with the master sniper of the Frau DivorcenGruppen Grenadiers and again had a very nice time. I have met several really interesting and nice people over the past few weeks. On the 4th I went to a party with friends I have known in many cases for twenty or more years but have not seen at all during the 8-month filming of the award winning tragedy, “Wazyzilla’s Revenge”.

I was told over and over again how good I look, how much younger I look, and how happy I seem. I don’t know about the first two but the third is on the money.

Two days until we start filming the next movie, “Things to do in Denver When You’re With a Cajun”. This one will be a comedy.


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Could end up being more of a "Weekend At Bernie's" movie if you are not careful with the Cajun...

So nice to hear of your happiness, well earned happiness...


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HI! Good to hear the update! There is hope for the rest of us on the D-line!

I would love to hear the title of my movie, present sitch...something along the lines of "POWS meets the REPO MAN!"

he's coming dangerously close...I got another call today this time from HArley! LMAO...

I have to laugh...b/c this is driving me insane...if I don't laugh I won't make it!

Oh, what's a girl to go? LMAO


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Wayzilla always spewed the fog that the affair and the marriage had nothing to do with each other. She will die alone before she admits this was not true.

Yeah, that's one that my FWW still hasn't come to terms with in her mind yet. I don't know whether it is stubbornness, pride, or just an unwillingness to believe that should could be capable of such a horrible act.

Don't worry, I'll get it out of her eventually. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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this Coors is for YOU

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I got to talk to BetrayedCajun on the phone ... but his voice is soft and we were LOUD

so it was hard to hear

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Hey chrisner, it was great to meet you and your DD19. She is one very mature and beautiful young woman. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Yesterday was the seventh week of the divorce being final. I am doing very well. Again I will say that this site and forum have done wonders to speed my recovery and provide me understanding of the dynamics of my marriage and future relationships.

During that time I have:
- Refinanced the house and paid Wayzilla off.
- Dispersed all the remaining accounts and assets.
- Partied with a Cajun across Colorado.
- Road trip to LA via the Grand Canyon and Vegas with DD19.
- MB party with Pep, Orangepearl, Married Forever and Mr. MF, Bellevue, SDguy, Faithful Follower, WasSadTiger and Mrs. WST, healingbird, and foundareason. Oh yeah, and Drew Carey.
- Disneyland and Huntington Beach with DD19.
- Coached a boy’s basketball tournament.
- And still had time for a few really fun nights out with the Master Sniper of the Fräulein Schwimmen Divorcengruppen Kampfangriff Mannschaft (you may need a translator)

DD19 has moved back home and is preparing for her second year of college. Hopefully it will go easier than her first year without the subtle drama created by the total destruction of her family and her Mother’s infidelity. I am glad she is home for a while.

I have only seen Wayzilla once; the day after the divorce was final to split bank accounts. We have only had one phone conversation regarding the refinance and a couple of emails without the need to respond. She is now well and truly gone. The “Jimmy Hoffa Witness Protection Plan B from the Dark Side of Pluto” is now fully in place.

I have only seen her a handful of times since she left in January and it may sound funny but I am now having a little trouble visualizing her. The other night I was cleaning up the My Pictures section in my computer and saw several pictures of her over the past year, primarily from our 25th anniversary in May of 2006 through D-Day Thanksgiving 2006. Her decline is incredible. In my mind she was always a very beautiful woman but these pictures are like watching the portrait of Dorian Gray. In the last pictures you might as well paint her green, put her in a black dress, give her a broomstick and a skywriting job for a tattoo parlor.

She has only seen DD19 twice since the divorce was final. They have a Hiroshima of a relationship to rebuild.

I wonder sometimes that if I met her for the very first time today would I even look twice at her? If she started to talk would I like her? Would there be anything there at all? I don’t think there would be.

Oh well, life goes on.

Last night at basketball practice I talked to a mom of one of the boys who played for me at the tournament last weekend. She told me he had never come home from a tournament in any of the sports he played as pumped as he was this weekend. She told me he said I was the best and most favorite coach he has ever had. Wow! The things that make it all worth while.


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Good for you Chrisner, good for you.

I have to bet that you would not look twice at WZ. She is not the woman you fell for so many years ago, and not close to what you want now, as you are looking for a woman, not an older lady masquerading as a 'girl'. When I see women doing this, it just makes me sad, sorta feel sorry for them. Fear is a terrible thing.


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43. Get Mannschaft Sniped by a Schwimmen Fräulein

Just added that to my list of things to do before I die.

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DD19 has moved back home and is preparing for her second year of college.


Chris, your Delta Tau Chi name is Red Bean.


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