Update from the D-Line.

DD19 and I have been invited to a party at the Frau DivorcenGruppenFurher’s home in Fort Collins tonight with all the Frau DivorcenGrenadiers. The pool closes in a couple weeks so this is their end of year get together. They have all told me that DD is the best and their favorite lifeguard they have had at the pool going back 10 years. It’s good to hear those things. Many of these women have been very supportive of DD over the summer and have given her great advice regarding her MIA mother. I owe them all for how much they have done for DD these past months. They have been both mothers and sisters to her.

I will be attending the event with the dangerous blonde Master Sniper. It should be a very good time.

Master Sniper, her DS16, his girlfriend, DD19, her “boyfriend Du joir” and I are going down to the State Fair next weekend. That’s always a fun day. Lots of hot sun, beer gardens and brats. So good and so good for you.

Fall leagues for high school basketball are organizing so I will be coaching double headers on Saturdays soon at the Freshman or JV level. We are looking at attending an out of state coach’s clinic or two, either Pepperdine or Northern State (I really get a kick out of Don Meyers) or both.

In early October I will be in Nashville for a few days to instruct in a training course for our Sales Coordinators. I need to start getting organized for that soon! I want to tie over for a day so I can slip down to the Shiloh battlefield once again.

Throw on installing a new wildflower landscape garden in the back yard and remodeling the master bathroom and my fun cup is about full.

Have a great weekend all you MB’ers!

Sounds good, mis amigo! Happy to hear you doing so well.

I guess I'm still anxious and tense, otherwise I'd be able to come up wtih a joke about Nashville and Elvis impersonators and the 30th anniversary of his death (yesterday?). I'll have to owe you one.

No problem amigo. I have been watching your thread but have little hard useful advise to give. Keep hanging tough.

By the way;

Beau does Elvis. I do Sinatra.

My dad does the BEST Sinatra! If there was a karaoke machine, he was posturing. I miss that!

You do sound GREAT, Chrisner! Enjoy the party! Your life sounds full of promise for a good season!

The Karma Bus is making it’s first stop at Wayzillas.

I was sitting with a group of our company’s mechanics a couple days ago when one of them started talking about a major highway and redevelopment project going on that will ultimately bulldoze his friend’s house he is currently staying at. The neighbors have been fighting the city for 2-years but the final vote was last week and the project approved. Then he started talking about the dumb [censored] woman who bought one of the houses on the street and just moved in last week. Half the houses in the area are discounted for sale and there are no buyers. I said, “That’s funny, I think that is near where my darling ex-wife Wayzilla has moved.” I did a little research and guess what? Wayzilla is the dumb [censored] woman.

I googled the city and the project and it was clear her house is in the redevelopment bulldozer scrape zone. The scope of the project was huge and the details in the report made it very clear that Wayzilla’s new home is in the way of progress.

I told DD19 about it and we both sat stunned wondering what she was doing. Today DD called Wayzilla and asked her why she bought a house in the expansion corridor. Wayzilla had no idea what she was talking about and that she was pretty sure DD had the wrong info. DD told her she better check the city’s webpage.

She is going to be barfing in the parking lots again soon.

Chris,

Karma is something I think we do indeed need to believe in, despite how things appear.

I'm not 100% sure, but my ex may be pregnant, which puts her "dream" relationship with the man she's with now in a totally new light. It's changed my attitude towards him completely. I honestly feel bad for him and hope they can make this work. I could be wrong and could be completely reading the signs wrong. I'll feel stupid if that is indeed the case, but the development puts everything into a new light.

I was thinking that perhaps this man has something that does make her happier than she was with me and couldn't figure it out. I understand why he's around now, if I'm not wrong.

Funny how things turn out.

There are some positive developments for me with a new home, nice used hybrid, a parenting coordinator that will elimnate legal bills (mostly), and things look good as far as women go. There's a promising match I'll meet soon.

I'm getting back on my feet while she appears to be continuing the path of chaos and drama, but it doesn't really involve me anymore. I just feel bad that my kids are going to be so deeply affected by all of this.

I don't want to threadjack as much as philosophize with you about Karma.

So things aren't all dreamy in Wayzilla Ville?

How are things with the new lady? What does DD think of the new lady?

I'd say that scores about an 8 on the karmometer. It had sounded like she was near the bottom, but no, it's still coming up to slap her around. Sigh.

That's not karma, that's stupidity. It sucks for Wayzilla not to have chrisner around to help her out with these kinds of decisions. Oh well, her choice.

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Glad to year from ya, chris!

Fox

p.s. I might be joining you in the D-line soon. Scheduling conference between lawyers and judge is this Thursday. We'll see if 7th time is the charm. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Take Care!

I would chime in that I'm headed that way, too, but I'm too busy living for today. <looks around suddenly for BR>

Yo Chris and SD - just wanted to drop in and say "hi!". I enjoyed meeting you at the fruits & nuts. I am very glad I made it to that event. I have not been around much since then. i can not find that thread...


Karma's a biach, aint it?

foundareason

Wow, I take a look this morning and Brokendreams has hoisted up my boat anchor thread. It must have been down 5-6 pages by now.


No kidding Jim. If the city plan follows the maps and details as approved Wayzilla has a huge problem. She can't sell, can't improve the home, can't get her money and may have to wait a couple years before developers come along and buy her out for whatever they feel is a right price.

Even if her house survives she will be surrounded by a truly massive construction effort for several years. And she HATES stuff like that.

Well she told me how it would be so much easier to be alone and independent. She wanted to “Find out who she is and where she is.” She’s a dummy living in a little 50+ year old house with a bulldozer target on the side.


The aftershocks may be bigger SD!


Good luck Cowgirl. Unfortunately, there is always room here at the D-Line. You, SD, Sis, Bugs have all come a long way these past few weeks in your personal recovery. You all will do fine no mater what happens.

My boss went through all this 12-years ago. His wife had 2 affairs and took everything but their 2-boys. He told me about a poor day he was having driving around with his realtor looking for a house he could barley afford for him and the boys. His realtor was a little old man nearing retirement and he turned to my boss and told him, “Son, the best revenge is to live life full and well.”

Great words! Just what I plan to do!

Foundareason! I was just thinking about the Fruits and Nuts and Drew Carey party yesterday. What a great time that was! I wonder what has happened to Orangepearl?

The D has been final for 3-months on Thursday. Time sure flies! I have had no contact of any kind with Wayzilla for 2-1/2 months. That’s the way it will stay. The Jimmy Hoffa Plan B from the Far Side of Pluto! It works great.

DD is doing great at school and her new job. She has turned a few corners in her recovery from all this crap. The Divorcengruppen Sniper took her makeup shopping a couple weeks ago and they had a wonderful time.

I coach two High School JV level boys games this Saturday and have a couple practices this week. Busy Times.

And yes, life is good.


PS – Bitbucket, if you are out there….I bought a white M1871 colonial pith helmet with the 24th Welsh Regiment insignia plate. It sits in the living room on my Grandmother’s buffet and the first thing every guy friend of DD19’s that comes into the house does is plop it on their head. One kid puts it on his head, watches a couple movies and takes it off when he leaves. What a hoot!

DD just shakes her head and says, "This is such a guy place now."

Good to hear from you Chrisner!

So, Karma's on Wayzilla's street too! WHOO HOO!

I hope to see some Karma around here for POWS real soon!

Good to hear life's treating you so WELL! Glad DD is doing great too!

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Hey Chrisner,

Sounds like all is well in your kingdom! I think a lot of people could take a cue from you in how you are handling WZ with the Hoffa Plan B.

It's great to hear the DD19 is doing some of her own personal recovery. Hope the school year is good for her. I know I was so busy while I was in college, I was so happy to graduate!

Chris,

Where are you from?

I think it would be great to have a DC get together with any MB members that live around here. I was thinking a DC United game or AF vs Navy or something fun like that.

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Funny how I heard the same stuff about "Finding myself".

One year later and it looks like finding herself meant shacking up with another guy and adding more kids.

I'm so glad to hear your DD is doing well. I worry about my kids and how this mess will affect them in the future. You show by example that being there is more important than anything. I can't comprehend how your ex doesn't feel anything over the idea of her daughter having nice moments like that with another woman. That's quality mother/daughter stuff they should do together.

I can understand your DD, though. My parents divorced when I was 27 and my relationship with my father was strained for a long time afterwards. It will get better and I'm sure they'll eventually reconcile their relationship in some way.

All we can do is be there for them when they need us.

I miss your posts and sarcasm. It would be great to hear more from you, even if it's standard "I had a glass of water today" stuff. I'm sure you'd find a way of making that funny.

Take care.

DD19 had to face a bit of adultery fallout reality this past week.

DD agreed to go over to Wayzilla’s new house (DD calls it “The Trailer”) last Thursday for dinner. They have not seen each other in nearly 5-weeks. However, Wayzilla’s fridge just broke down so they had to eat out anyway. To quote Nelson from the Simpsons, “Haaa-Haaaa!

More Karma? DD said a next door neighbor had backed a rented front end loader over a section of Wayzilla’s back yard chain link fence this week too. Maybe the place is a bulldozer magnet. Wayzilla told DD that after an exhaustive search she could find no information about the redevelopment plan and whoever told her about it was wrong. I guess exhaustive searches don’t include going to your city web page and reading the approved 32 page plan on the home entry page that includes a map of your house in the scrape zone. Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.

When DD got home that night I knew there was something out of sorts but other than saying The Trailer smells like cigarettes, old people, locker room feet and wet dog she said little of the evening.

However, this past weekend she told the Divorcengruppen Sniper that when she walked in the house, she saw prominently displayed a picture of Gollum and a studio portrait of Gollum’s S2. She was afraid of hurting me with this information but I think she was hurt enough herself to see the OM’s S’s picture that she needed to talk to someone. I guess it does not matter too much what age you are, seeing the “new happy infidelity family” must be a blow.

I talked to her a little about it last night and she admitted it hurt a little to see OM’s son displayed as family but she added, “He is just a little boy and none of this is his fault.” Her real anger was at her mother for lying directly to her on every occasion it came up during the divorce separation that she and Gollum were done. DD always knew it was a lie but having it proven was one more blow to their now very tenuous relationship.

EXIdiot BIL’s wedding (only 5-months after breaking up with his 2-year married affair partner and 18 months since his divorce) is in 2-weeks. I suppose there is a very good chance Gollum will be there too. DD says if he is there she will leave and will not be introduced to him. I guess it could be High Noon at the wedding chapel.

Thankfully I will be across the city coaching two basketball games.


Hi BD, I live in a Northwest suburb of Denver. Originally from Minnesota.

I'm so sorry that DD19 has all of this to deal with. College is challenging enough, not to mention late teens early twenties, without having family issues on top of it all. I remember when my mom was dianosed with breast cancer and went through surgery and chemo; I almost dropped out of school! I wouldn't go back if you paid me!

I'm so glad that you talked to her about this. You are solidifying one great relationship with her by being open to discussing such painful things.

I feel bad for Gollum's little boy. He's thrust in the midst of all of this NOW.

Sounds like 'Dozers have it out for WZ's place. I couldn't help but laugh at this. It is just too damned funny


I am glad that you are safely tucked away in your "Hoffa Plan B".

Hi Coach C,

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Ace

Hi SL! Thanks for stopping by. I wish I had some words of great wisdom to offer you on your thread but it looks like some of the heavy hitters are offering some great thoughts for you.

In truth, in spite of this expected setback, DD19 is doing real well. School and her job are going great and she is coaching basketball a couple nights a week as well.

In so many ways life is becoming more normal again less one person. We cook dinners and eat at the table, laugh hysterically at movies, fire up the back yard grill without fear of front end loaders, talk about books and how our days went and of course her favorite subject; guys.

Last night while we were talking she said, "Sometimes the family has to get rid of the cancer to survive and be happy again." Wow! I was not sure how to respond to that.

Hi Ace!

I added this as an edit after seeing your post. I do my best to check in but after this past year I am finally able to contribute at work at a near full capacity. That feels great! I wonder sometimes how we all kept our jobs the first few weeks/months after D-Day. My boss has been great.

You have been a busy girl around here lately Ace! Keep up the good work.

I'd have to say that I agree with your DD, Chrisner! Very bright, that one. It is like an insidious cancer, the wayward spouse, and I do agree that 'treatment' is necessary. I would say that WZ is currently being treated, with a HUGE dose of reality.

When you invest in [censored], you get poo, even if it means that your home is that pile o' poo.

Hopefully, she will go in remission one day.

Wow, what a cool girl your DD is; when I grow up, I wanna be just like her...