Hey Cowgirl!

Boy, the courts in Montana definitely drive with the parking brakes on. I hope you are well.

Not much left of the MB class of 2007. I saw Bugs and Sis both post today and they sound good. The Cajun amigo sounds like he is happy as well.

I am going to take DD out shopping for a nice dresser in the next couple weeks. I want her to have a real nice one she can be happy with for many years.

How is Bball going for DD13? I still miss coaching girls. They work so hard at the details and fundamentals.

Stay warm Cowgirl. I think we will be disappointed this year with Punxsutawney Phil. I think winter will stretch out this year.

Q: What do you get when you cross chrisner with a groundhog?

A: 6 more weeks of basketball.

-ol' 2long <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yup, they are almost in reverse sometimes. Put a call into my lawyer this morning. Giving him a little nudge to get a scheduling conference on the books so we can get this done.

No word from him yet.



Everyone has come so far from where they were when they first got here. It's really good to see.



Not so good. She really dislikes her coach. Her team is winning by drastic points but she gets very little play time. Yesterday she played a total of 6 minutes (not all together) and made two baskets. She's a decent player, she just doesn't get play time.

Her coach is rude to the kids and borderline rude to the parents.

I talked to her last night about whether or not she was going to try out for high school basketball. Her answer was no. When I asked her why (she's always loved b-ball) she said she wasn't good enough so there isn't any point.

She's incredibly discouraged. I tried to talk to her about not quitting something she loves - there are people in life that we have to deal with and we cannot let them ruin our dreams or discourage us from our goals.

In the end....it's her choice. She can allow someone to discourage her from something she loves to do - or choose to stick with it and leave this coach in her dust.



Stop talking dirty, chris. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> I think you are right, though, it's going to be a long one.

There's days you just have to hunker down and endure, having faith that warmer weather will come.

Fox

Huge win for the boys last night. We beat a program that is historically very good at all levels by 25. It's kind of an obnoxious rich kid school that most everyone in the league despises. Guess where Wayzilla went to high school? It was all the better a win because I had to sit 4 of my best players in the second half so they could play a little in the JV game and I got all 12 of my boys on the floor. My point hit 7 3-pointers and the team made 11 total.

I was told prior to the game that their coach was a real jerk and this turned out to be pretty accurate. Actually it was a profound understatement. He screamed and cried and pouted and moaned and threw around his coaching board. Every time one of his kids was called for anything he did this little baby stomp thing that in retrospect was quite strange. What a maroon.

Late in the second half I had several of my babies on the floor together and we were struggling a little. Their coach started acting like this was the Super Bowl of level 3 boy's basketball and I finally had it.

The gym got a little quiet so I loudly addressed my kids while the game was still in play. “Gentleman, I am not going to bail you out by wasting a time out. You have already won this game so start playing like winners again. Show some poise and stop playing with your food.” We then outscored them 9-0 to finish the game.

That went over like a fart in an airlock on the other bench but the home stands enjoyed it.

He did not shake my hand after the game.


Where do they find these guys Cowgirl?


Hopefully she will change her mind. I wish I could talk to her. To often girls allow bad coaches and selfish boyfriends (Arrrrggggg do I hate that one) to end their sports. I have always told the girls that have played for me that a boy will not give up his sport for you. Don’t give up yours for him.

I had a girls team a couple years ago that would occasionally end a huddle with, “1-2-3 BOYS ARE BAD”


The right message!

I talked to DD20 last night after the games for nearly an hour. She is doing fine. We both knew it was the one year anniversary of Wayzilla’s freedom but we never brought her up. We talked about school, basketball, boyfriends, and believe it or not recipes, bedroom dressers and dresses. What a hoot!

Hey Chris!

I just LOVE reading your team stories! It's so great to read about people who love kids and set such great examples with their time, energy, and CLASS!

But I really had to pop by to say that this -



is one of the best lines in a long, long time! Your ability to chat like "one of the girls" is going to make you totally irresistable (sp?) to the women!! It's like the icing on top of the cake!! he he!

Seriously, you continue to do so well!!

So, what IS the latest in the line of fashionable dresses? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

chris,

Better look out....sounds like your boys are on their way to having a bare faced coach.



I dunno..... and why do they want to coach? They obviously don't enjoy it.



Too funny. DD13 has yet to admit that she is even aware boys are around.



I agree on both points. Mom knows absolutely nothing and can't possibly understand what she is going through.

I think she is going through alot right now. I think the strain of the D is finally beginning to show, hormones are raging, and just your typical teenage stuff. It was so nice to be around her this weekend, she was smiling and happy, and content. And then the switch flipped and she hates the world again.

Could be an absolute coincidence but her attitude didn't go sour until she spent an evening with WH again. Our road was closed on Monday so we couldn't get into town and they missed visitation with him on that day.

Her b-ball team is running away with wins so that has been a plus. I try to make a big deal and celebrate and she says "why? I didn't help do it." Even when she actually has....some of the points are hers directly and others she assisted in getting. Her attitude just sucks.

At times she reminds of WH and his sulkiness and how it is everyone else's job to drag them out of their pissy moods. GRRR.

Sorry for the t/j.



That is so cool! What a great dad you are. Too bad they are not all like you!

Fox

Hey Chrisner.....how's the team doing now?

I enjoy your hoop stories, especially now that my FWH has officially retired from youth sports coaching after 35 years.

Now that he's pitching on a 55+ baseball team and teaching private pitching lesson$, he is still enjoying sports....just not youth team coaching.

So I appreciate all your game stories....brings back many fond memories.

Also, I've been meaning to ask, might you be willing to link or post your success story of personal recovery on the Success Stories thread (link in my sig line)? Your process could inspire many guys who need a boost in spirits as they struggle with the prospects of being D'd after many years of marriage.

Thanks...and keep the hoop stories coming. I read them all and smile. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Ace

Hi Ace! I missed your post somehow.

DD20 had a tough day yesterday. Her team is struggling for unity and ultimately for wins. Now a parent has left a nasty message on her cell phone. She called me pretty upset and had some frustrated tears. I wouldn’t even want to coach her bunch of selfish knuckleheads. She seemed to get a handle on the situation pretty quick and has been very adult in her response. I invited her to dinner after practice and she was pretty pleased to accept.

Then while she was driving to BW3, Wayzilla called her. It was nothing important but DD could barely hear her over Gollum’s howling S3 in the background. What an idiot! DD was soooooo pissed. DD told her mom to call back sometime when she has more time and hung up. What is Wayzilla thinking?

Well anyway, the wings at BW3 were fine, the company first rate and the Indiana-Illinois game was great. She sounded fine this morning and I will see her tomorrow for another round of dresser shopping.

My boys picked up two more solid wins this week and we have a huge game tomorrow morning against the #1 team in our conference. It should be a great test. Our win on Wednesday was over a team coached by DD’s former high school coach the year they got to the Elite 8 at the state tournament. I was his 8th grade youth feeder coach for 2-years. After the game the refs came over to me and told me it was a pleasure to work my games and they really appreciate my demeanor and my boys discipline and sportsmanship. One told me that it is obvious my boys love me. Cool.

There are only 2-weeks left of the season and six games and our only away game of any real distance is at Columbine. It’s been really great but I am ready for a little break. Come on Spring!

The divorce will be final for 8-months next week and I have not spoken to Wayzilla since the week after it was final. PLAN B on 3! 1-2-3 PLAN B!!

You sound like a great coach! There just aren't enough of you guys and gals . Keep up the great work, Coach C. and...

Gooooooo Plan BEEEEEEEEE!

Poor DD20. Parents can be tough! Coaching is hard, no doubt. It's great she has you to get advice from.

I really wish DD13 had a coach like you. Your boys are lucky.

The World of Wayzilla (WoW) - does not sound like all it was meant to be. How do you 'spose WayZ feels having a screaming 3 year old around? I don't know about her, but I sure wouldn't want to start over (especially with someone else's) and I'm just 34 (almost).

DD13's b-ball team is still undefeated and she is getting much more play time then she was. She still struggles with the coach but she seems to be getting past it. She still has some confidence issues to work through though.



EXCELLENT! They probably work harder for you to make YOU proud of them, too.



You can say that again! Wind has been blowing up here like we ought to be in Kansas! Part of the road to my driveway has drifted badly and I have to get a screaming run at the drift to make it through. DDs love it! I'm not so sure... sometimes we get close to the end and I'm just barely creeping. Good thing it's not too far from the house.

Fox

Hmmmmm.....Two healthy daughters and a snow drift.....what to do with this problem.......Oh yeah, how about two shovels?

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Why didn't I think of that?! Remember that mental slowness I posted about on my thread - here's proof. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Shall I wait for them to get in trouble on their own......or set them up? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Fox

I am truly the lucky one.



Morbid curiosity does keep me wondering. I really only get tiny occasional glimpses into her stinking swamp of a life so I really can’t be sure. She’s 46 and a part time babysitter to another woman’s 3-year old son. A woman she crapped all over. Incredible!

***RANT WARNING! READ AT OWN RISK***

I still feel terrible for Gollum’s XBW that Wayzilla has entered her DS’s life in such a profoundly horrible way. I am absolutely ashamed of her for that. Does she think she is bringing some kind of value or benefit to this little boy’s life? How do they live with themselves?

Gollum’s X really should get the preverbal 10-minutes in an empty room with Wayzilla and a baseball bat. And no, I am not kidding. She deserves that.

I do know that they did not spend any of Christmas together. I don’t think either are welcome with the others family yet. Those annoying little details of reality that the fantasy never addressed.

And why is she still so evil to her daughter? Showing DD her home with pictures of Gollum and Gollum Spawn proudly on display in her living room and bedroom? The pictures of DD are on a wall in the dank basement with the boxes she has not unpacked yet.

Calling DD with Gollum’s son screaming in the background? What is the message she is trying to send her daughter?

This all goes beyond fog and addiction and all the “get out of jail free” excuses for wayward behavior. It’s mean, it’s purposefully hurtful and although I can only say it here, I want the B!tch out of my daughter’s life.

I have carried the entire load morally, financially and emotionally for my daughter for over a year and I am proud and happy to do it. And I will do it the rest of my life. All my stinking B!tch of an X has done is hurt and confuse her. And I am sick of it.

I remember she came home on a Friday night during Plan A and started pounding down vodka and Sprite. She is not a drinker by any stretch. My jaw was hitting the floor. Within an hour she was a stammering wreck. Tears and blubbering. “I don’t know what to do.” I don’t know what I want.” “This is so confusing.” “Why are you doing this?”
“I just want to drive into a bridge abutment.”

That night I got to hold her hair while she yacked to Ralph. Ah, the golden memories of Plan A.

Well now I am all for the bridge abutment solution.

Sorry! Rant! Sorry!

Yikes, sorry I asked. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Boy, can I related to your rant. You've been holding that in for a long time.....

Personally, I'm glad to hear you're no better than the rest of us. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I've often wished a bridge abutment would introduce itself to Bab's and WH.

Fox

I give that a 10! Good solid rant, stayed focused on subject at hand. REally has a good grasp of where his anger belongs, and, as usual, excellent excecution! If only you had some shirts of WZ's to now ceremonially cut into bits and shreds and then burn.

Adult kids of divorce suffer just as much, IMO.

Oh you know how it is...it kind of wells up from time to time like the morning after burritos and Old Milwaukee night.


It was a pretty good effort. I wanted to find a spot to throw in odious and repugnant but maybe next time. It stumbles a little at the mid-point but finishes strong with the old tried and true barf story.

Man, I feel better!

She is always there for me!

Have a great weekend SL and Cowgirl! Thanks for being great friends.

You should think about ranting more often, Amigo. Keep that crap in and it will eat you up.

Chris,

I use to have a tough time just hearing my dad's mistress in the background.

I once sped off in his car when she came out of the house and I had my daughter and then wife over for a visit. I abruptly ended my conversation with my dad and his neighbor and sped away.

One of my other fits was going out with a buddy and my brother to a sports bar and seeing my dad there with the b*tch.

I stormed out, drove to my dad's place, got our stuff out of there and then went to sleep at my best friend's parent's house.

I did all this in my late 20s.

It's tough. I think it's tougher on the older kids because you have good memories to compare the crap to. Younger ones adapt better.

Things do get better over time.

Just another Valentine’s Day in Infidelville.

DD20 told me she called her mom in the afternoon to wish her a happy Valentine’s Day (Infidel Mardi Gras). She said she got back a cold, “Is it Valentine’s Day?”, and “yeah, you too.”

Are the toilets backing up in Camelot?

Wayzilla showed up last night to see DD’s girl’s play but as usual sat away from the home crowd and left without saying a word to DD.

I had a great day! Not as great as the day that Lisa R. gave me a special “big” Valentine’s card instead of the little “class” size Scooby Doo or Loony Tunes ones that everyone else got in the 5th grade. That was even better!

Two great wins for the boys this week and a game to play tonight. Last night’s game was tied at 57 with 42 seconds left and us with the ball. I did not even have to call a time out. My guards worked the ball patiently running 36 seconds off the clock before executing a backdoor layup for the game winner that looked like it came out of Hoosiers (except we have better uniforms and I don’t get to go out with Barbara Hershey).

It was another team that was supposed to “hammer” us. We are 12-4 now on the season and 5-2 in league. Next Wednesday night we play Columbine and on Friday finish with the only currently undefeated team in our league.

The team and their families are coming over to my place tomorrow for a pizza and pot luck party. DD and the DGS will be there too so I am really looking forward to it. These have been great kids and are the most unselfish team I have ever coached.

Have a great weekend MBers.

chrisner, if no one has started a top ten list of fantastically funny stuff on your thread yet, I nominate the above to go on the list. Although I'm sure it wouldn't end up being top ten material once everyone has their say, I laughed out loud, and for that, I thank you!

Glad your boys are having a successful season.