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Mimi,
I have "over-suspected" for years. I cannot, to this day, find "concrete" evidence, albeit, the signs are VERY strong, Now!
Okay, "Your Husband looking up" "crotch" diseases and how to cure them on a web site, is not all that great!? Yes? NO!
What a Dufus! I just typed my way into the "Stoopid A$$" hall of fame!
I have no money to spend on a PI, but thanks all the same!
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Beleiver:
I have had yeast infections before, I do not have one now, nor did I have one at anytime during the last 5 years.
As a female, I would definately KNOW this!
ITCHY!
Anyhooo, Thank you for all you offer! I really appreciate all you do for us!
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Well, he could have one from taking anti-biotics, diabetes, etc. But looking it up on the internet is suspicious.
So tell us more about him not sleeping with you because you are a B*tch.
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Thank you Believer
My thoughts exactly! He is afraid to go to the doctor, because he will have to explain himself! I am so grossed out, I can't even think about what I have to say to my doctor! Heart and Female parts to me are broken!!
I am a religious person, Mother ary Full of Grace!
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MImi,
I am suspicious without a doubt!
I am a nurse with substntial medical back-ground. He has always come to me, if therr has been a problem.
Now, I just don't know!!
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Seems to me if you are meeting his needs then it doesn't make sense that he thinks you're a b***h. So what is going on there? Those are two extremes.
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DDay PA 6/05
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Dear Michele G,
I agree! We have not been meeting each others needs. Unfortunately, despite my encouragement, over the last few months, to save our marriage, I have been met with such overbearing resistance, that I am at a loss as to where to go. Again, I don't want anyones husband to research Venereal deseases, and have their wife find out, I still find the subject worth looking into.
Sorry if I disappointed you!
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We have been having "difficulties" the last few years. Alot of resentment, not meeting each others needs, etc..
H has been sleeping in the spare bedroom for about a month now, he says it's because I've been such a B*tch. I agree, but I have alot of resentment that has been building up, and despite my efforts using MB principles for 4 months nothing has changed. So, I just let him sleep there.
Comminucation is less than zero. Do you want to explain this further? You've built up resentment about what? How do you express this? Yes, explain more about sleeping in the spare bedroom..because your are a B...H. Those two things don't AUTOMATICALLY FIT together. You say that you have read up on the site. Have you stopped LBing? Do you spend time with each other; you say you work out of town a lot? Are you working on meeting his emotional needs? HOW DO YOU EVIDENCE YOUR LOVE AND CARE FOR YOUR HUSBAND?
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Dear Mimi,
I have read everything on this website ; 2-3 times. My H wants nothing to do with it. I have asked, begged,pleaded, subtley placed infront of, screamed, yelled , thrown it at him, and just gave up. He has NO interest in saving this marriage.
I just want to tell him "Take you self-righteous, selfish, self, and Be Gone!
The lack of response was and is the first indicator!
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Sorry If it seemed liked I yelled this!
I am just soo confused!
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If you have been meeting his top EN's with no disrespectful judgements or angry outbursts for 4 months with no results, he probably has another woman somewhere. It could be someone he works with.
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I really was sincerely interested in the answers to the questions.
The answers are not about your H..
I was asking about YOU....
YOU can't make HIM do anything.
YOU can only change YOURSELF.
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Mimi,
You are right! I just got off the phone with him (I'm out of town on a business trip right now)
I said: How are your lower parts?"
H- Fine, why do you ask?
Me- A little birdie told me there was some trouble! Who is this trouble?
H-I'm fine, well talk about it when you get home.
Me: Fine, I don't want anynore suprises!
H- We'll talk when he gets home.
Sorry, this is all too sudden, I am so confused!
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Thank you all for your reply's
I am just a puddle of MUSH right now.
What a bizarre feeling, anger, annoyance, pity, shame, and hate/ love! I do not think I have experienced these feelings ever insuch a way!
I do appologize!
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YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO KEEP QUIET until finished with your investigation!!!
Now he's got time to come up with HIS LIE...
So sorry that you are having to go through this, PGA..so sorry...
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Maybe I don't get it!
It sounds like I am the one who created his disease?
I made himhave a "penile Problem"?
So confused ???
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You need to settle down and relax. It was a mistake to call him, but I know how hard it is to keep silent. Now you must be calm and come up with a plan.
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PGA - you can not be too careful about some things.
I have a friend whose husband died of AIDS. She did not know about his 'alternate lifestyle' until he was dead and gone. He never told her he was HIV+. Never told her anything. The doctor's marched in to his room for rounds one day and one of them said, 'This is not how the disease typically presents.....' Only then did she know something it was even worse than what she already knew.
By the time he died, he had not yet told her the truth.
And, in the years after he quit donating blood to the local blood bank, he never ever made an effort to protect her.
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Apparently you missed this post to you, so I've copy/pasted it again. Funky question here, but I must ask....Does anyone think my H has some sort of disease, and would rather let me die of it, instead of admitting it? Me heart says so! IF he is wayward, you cannot listen to your heart regarding how to proceed. You must deal with all of this in a cerebral manner, and put what your heart is saying on a shelf, at least until you get bottom of what is going on. The MB program is designed to help you make a difference based on what YOU do, because please understand that you cannot make your H do anything but what he chooses. So listen to the sage advice you receive here and PLAN your course of action. Don't react in haste to anything that develops until you are extremely familiar with the MB program. You could make mistakes that make a long process take even longer. Best wishes, SD
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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Right, I need to relax. Yes!
Is there a way to not want to crawl out of one's skin?
Thank you Mimi,
I will try from now on to be discrete. It just feels so Filthy! NOT speaking my mind has and maybe always will be a hazard. please elp me with this if you can.
Thank you so much!
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