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Ok so now that I have told him, then I need to go back home, but the OM is very persistent, he says he is in love with me. How do I tell him he has to let me go and move on?
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Simple.
A No Contact letter - be very specific about the mistake the affair was, your desire to work on your marriage and that in no way, shape or form (texting, cell phone, skywriting, etc.) is the OM to see or speak to you.
Let your husband read the letter and let your husband mail the letter.
If you buy/read SAA, an example of a NC letter is on page 58-59, if I remember correctly.
Nowwhat74
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Be prepared with a plan of action for if/when he does contact you...how you will handle it and notify your husband. You need to have it all in place, so that you don't slip in a moment of weakness and resume contact.
Changing phone numbers, emails etc. would be ideal.
If you don't have an example of the NC letter, you can search for one on the forums or email me and I'll copy it from my book for you.
MAZ
Me, 43, 2 online EA's 2006
DH, 45, 2DDs, 16 & 9
Married 23 years.
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are you no longer living with the OM?
Have you told your H about the A?
As far as enforcing NC...
give the NC letter one chance and let your H approve and send the letter.
IF the OM contacts you again for any reason, contact the police and let them know you are being harassed. This should stop everything.
Also, change your cell phone number and email addresses.
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