I am moving towards a plan B and I am wondering how you handle that in regards to kids events, band concerts, ball games, etc. Do you ignore your spouse? Seems detrimental to the kids? How do you experienced Killer Bees handle that?

Having an A is detrimental to the kids, fighting for you M is not.

I would suggest that you go to these events and participate as if your WW is not there. If she tries to engage you...remain silent. You are there for your kids only.

I have a quick question that I believe will clarify this for you. How do you go to the kids' events, band concerts, and games knowing that Mrs. Jones will be there? Do you avoid her or ignore her? Seems detrimental to the kids.

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Here is my point. I know that YOU are married to your WW and she is the kids' mother...but in Plan B you would treat her very similar to how you would treat Mrs. Jones. Would you NOT go to events, concerts or games because Mrs. Jones is going to be there? Heck no!!! Would you be uncivil or try to talk "relationship talk" with Mrs. Jones at one of those events? Heck no!! So you treat WW the same way. Go as if you are a widower. When/if you see her, you don't go toward her or sit by her or anything--act as if your spouse died and you are there to see YOUR CHILD. And if she approaches you and speaks to you, you respond in a short, civil way like you would to some other team mom...and you go away.

Does that make sense?



--CK