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She finally went to a lawyer #1875334 05/10/07 11:55 AM
Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90 N namese90 OP Member
OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	After all these weeks she finally did it. She went to a lawyer and getting the ball rolling for the D. I still love her but I lost on what to do next. I haven't spoken to her in weeks good ol' plan B. Now what? I believe we can be happy together but I don't think she wants to give it a try because she feels guilty still. My head is spinning out of control. HELP!!!

Re: She finally went to a lawyer namese90 #1875335 05/10/07 11:59 AM
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medc Member M Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 10,044	work your plan... do not react to her actions at this point. How do you know she went to an attorney if you are in plan B?

Re: She finally went to a lawyer medc #1875336 05/10/07 12:02 PM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	I haven't seen her or talked to her but she works down the street and I have keys to her car and saw the paperwork when I dropping bills off to her

Re: She finally went to a lawyer namese90 #1875337 05/10/07 12:18 PM
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medc Member M Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 10,044	YOU should not be dropping anything off to her or having any access to her life. That is not plan B. Remove yourself from her life until she changes her ways. You should have an intermediary set up for when communication is REQUIRED.

Re: She finally went to a lawyer namese90 #1875338 05/10/07 12:19 PM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	My plan is NC according to plan B. I want to talk to her so bad...I know I shouldn't.

Re: She finally went to a lawyer medc #1875339 05/10/07 12:23 PM
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chrisner Member C Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,965	Paperwork is paperwork. Lots of WS go down and get paperwork and consult. Filing and retainer fees start the real divorce and still can get pulled later. That happens often. Stick to a dark Plan B. Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain�t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!

Re: She finally went to a lawyer chrisner #1875340 05/10/07 12:26 PM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	She already paid for the retainer fee. So does this mean D is starting now???

Re: She finally went to a lawyer chrisner #1875341 05/10/07 12:30 PM
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Longhorn Member L Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,160 San Antonio, Texas	You've protected yourself by hiring your own attorney, right? If not, you surely should, and immediately. How To Organize A Marital Recovery Plan Spying 101 Exposure 101"

Re: She finally went to a lawyer Longhorn #1875342 05/10/07 12:32 PM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	I got a lawyer a while back. So how many people on here has had their WS go to a lawyer and go thru the whole nine yards of filing, courts, and etc. but in the end WS realizes that D is not the answer and want to works things out with BS??? Just a thought

Re: She finally went to a lawyer namese90 #1875343 05/10/07 12:33 PM
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chrisner Member C Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,965	Only if she initiated a petition with her attorney and has signed it for submittal with the county. Have you consulted for any legal advise yet? It is probably time if you have not. Edited: Longhorn beat me. Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain�t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!

Re: She finally went to a lawyer chrisner #1875344 05/10/07 12:36 PM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	I have a while ago...didn't think it was going to go this far.

Re: She finally went to a lawyer namese90 #1875345 05/10/07 01:07 PM
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MyBad Member M Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 118	Quote So how many people on here has had their WS go to a lawyer and go thru the whole nine yards of filing, courts, and etc. but in the end WS realizes that D is not the answer and want to works things out with BS??? Just a thought I am an example of the above quote. It does happen! MyBad BS 42 (Me) FWH 38 EA/PA 2 SDs 17, 15 DS 9 DD 7 3/20/06 FWH "I'm not happy - I want a D" speech Immediate Plan A FWH filed for D 4/8/06 D-Day 5/12/07 Plan FU till 6/1/06 FWH had breakdown FWH started IC 6/8/06 back to Plan A MC 08/06 NC Letter sent 9/23/06 FWH Requested to Dismiss D 10/06 In Recovery --------------- The greatest part of our happiness depends on our dispositions, not our circumstances.

Re: She finally went to a lawyer MyBad #1875346 05/10/07 09:58 PM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	Well that gives me hope and I think he his pressuring her to go for this D. The only time she brings it up is when I go to his base...timing is just awesome isn't it. Well I hope thats why she doing all of this sounds sad doesn't it.

Dumb move on my part namese90 #1875347 05/12/07 02:51 AM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	Tonight I went out with friends and had one to many drinks and text WS "Good Night and Sweet Dreams" which I told her every night before we went to bed. I don't know why I text her when I realize what I did it was too late. I really miss her and know I shouldn't have text her but what do I do if she text or calls back???

Still up and.... namese90 #1875348 05/16/07 02:58 AM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	Can't sleep right now...but its weird because I'm starting to not think about her as much. I still love her but haven't miss her like I thought I would. As for the lawyer thing I don't know where thats going right now haven't heard a word about it yet.

Going out of town namese90 #1875349 05/18/07 01:14 AM
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OP namese90 Member N Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 90	Going out of town for 10 days, hoping WS and OM goes out because I'm out so my "people" can get pictures and video of them. Revenge will be mine...ha ha ha. Well thats all I can think about right now anyway.

Re: Still up and.... namese90 #1875350 05/18/07 07:29 AM
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Mortarman Member M Joined: Jun 2002 Posts: 4,712	Hang tight. You are doing well. Standing in His Presence FBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!" Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives

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