Its been around 4 months since I last posted. Three years since D-day. I'm trying to move on with my life and I though I was doing okay. I knew my WxH is going to marry the OW on July 7, 2007. They picked that day because of the three 7s, they said its lucky. There going to need more that luck.

In my mind I tell myself this is a situation I can't do anything about and if he wants to marry a woman who played so many games to seduce and malipulate my husband and cared nothing about about her own marriage vows, well its his life to throw away. I deserve better than a weak man.

My in-laws who I'm very close with went to Flordia for two weeks and I'm taking care of their house. In the mail today was my WxH and the OW's wedding invitation. I'm pretty sure the OW knew I will be getting their mail and I will be seeing their wedding invite.

I don't understand why this has shaken me so. Maybe its the reality that they are actually getting married. Plus I was hoping one day my WxH would come out of his fog, even though if he ended up at my front door today, I probably would not take him back. Maybe its because and I hate to say this that the OW saw something she wanted and went after it and got it. I like to believe in karma or what goes around comes around, but it looks like she succeed in getting her way, no matter how many lives she had to destroy to get it.

Seeing the invitation has just made me sad, its like our many years of marriage never existed. It seems I wasted my whole adult life on a man who can leave me for a woman that doesn't have any moral values and still playing games.

{{{{HD2}}}}

I have no wisdom for you, just compassion.

I don't think the hurt ever goes away.

In support,

JinGA

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No advice here either, but try to remember that time is and will remain your friend and ally here. I like to continue to believe that what comes around, goes around and that sooner or later, the bad stuff people do catches up with them.

In truth, by the time it catches up with your XH, it probably won't matter to you at all anymore.

Take Care,

Who

You have my sympathy and empathy as well. I learned this past week that my exWW is now bringing her boyfriend around my kids. It knocked me on my butt as well and made me have a huge regression for about 3 days. I panicked and worried about my kids safety. I'm over the shock now and really see the situation for what it is.

Reality will soon set in for him and he'll either accept it or run away. They're happy playing house for now but I'm pretty sure that the screaming kids, the poop, the yelling, crying, and constant attention my little ones need will start wearing away at the honeymoon they're having.

It hurt to know he is going to spend more time with my kids than I do, but as you said, what comes around goes around.

Time is my friend and its yours as well. It has been one year for me and it still hurts, but nowhere near as much as it used to.

Keep your chin up. You'll meet someone with morals and a big heart if you are smarter about your choices.

Take care

I guess it will always sting even though I like to believe I have moved on.

Brokendreams, I couldn't imagine how it would felt with children involved. I know my 3 year niece met her this Christmas and I have to admit it hurt, so I couldn't imagine when its your own children. I told myself I see my niece almost everyday and she knows me and loves me. Children are smarter than we think and see through the phoney shield.

My WxH was a wonderful husband and we had a good marriage until I had to take two jobs to make ends meet plus I was helping him start his own business, thats when the OW started her malipulation of him. Thats why its going to be hard to trust again, he was a good person from a good family. We met in 1988 and married in 1990 and up to 2003 he treated me with a great deal of love and respect.

His family has been wonderful to me and they tell me all the time how proud of me they are and how I took the high road. My MIL told me when I find that someone special again, he will be welcomed into their family. My in-laws are the only family I have and after the divorced they still treat me like their own. I'm very grateful and blessed.

I know his family will be coming to the wedding, and it hurts but I know they don't like the OW but if they want to have a relationship with their son, they have the tolerate the situation. Luckily my WxH lives out in Vegas and we are here in New Jersey so we don't have to deal with them alot.

I always had a strong instinct about the OW but I didn't do anything about it. I always try to see the good in people and to have a strong instinct about someone, I should have trusted it. I thought since she was married, I must be crazy. Married people don't play those kinds of games, only on the TV soaps. Now my eyes are open and when I have a strong instinct, I'm going to trust it.

I know I'm a good person and I can hold my head up high. I wish karma will set in for the two of them, they still its say its God's will they are together. I can't believe God will destroy two marriages so they can be together. It just makes me sick and sad that they are going to get married in a church in front of God, Family and Friends and make a commitment of love.

I know its out of my control but I will always wonder what happen to the love he once had for me.

God would not destroy two marriages in order that two adulterous, selfish and fogged out people can be together. He will allow us to create our own paths at our own peril. I want you to come back and promise to post when the marriage and fantasy falls apart and the EX WH has called crying to you. I saw this happen recently with a friend after 3 years. No church wedding, stating of vows (which neither of them meant or mean now), prayer, etc can save them from what will surely be God's discipline for their sin and their mocking him in his HOUSE. Wait and watch.

My WxH and OW have put together a website for family and friends...39 days and counting to their blessed day.

I don't know why I visited the site, but I did.

I did find out they are not getting married in a church, but a casino. For a couple who claims its "God's will" they are together, I'm sure its his will that these two cheaters get married in a casino.

What really got me is their wedding song by Rascal Flatts. "Bless the Broken Road". and the lines.."Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars..Pointing me on my way into your loving arms..This much I know is true..That God Blessed the broken road...That led me straight to you." They make themselves as long suffering broken hearted people who didn't know true love until they found each other. That hurts. Believe it or not. my WxH tells me that how he loved my loyality and how I had such wonderful and beautiful spirit and to never change, but yet I was the northern star that led him straight into her loving arms, it was more like the snake that slither into our lives.

As I mention several times before, I don't have any family but my in-laws and they tell me everyday how much they love me. I'm so blessed to have them in my life. The OW might now have family gatherings and holidays but at least I know I have a special place in their heart. That's something she can not control.

I'm planning to gather some girlfriends of mine and have my own celebration on the 7th of July.

I am so very sorry. I know it must really sting. Take some solace in knowing that they will not be happy, they will live forever with the damage they caused and one day one of them is almost guarenteed to cheat again.

Two cheaters getting married in a casino. What a train wreck waiting to happen.

Continue making yourself a good life. There are too many honorable men looking for a good woman.

I give the marriage less than two years. Don't forget to let us know who cheats on who.

Don't torture yourself by looking at their website. I know it must hurt, but there situation is almost comical from the outside. They will probably get their divorce in Vagas also.

Funny isn't it....all the people **over Triple the ordinary date normally** think it will be LUCKY to get married on 7/7/07....almost laughable isn't it?

Your EX is gonna more than LUCK to make it with this marriage.....

Atruheart

I also posted on D/D forum and the reply I got from Giles nailed it. This whole website is to help their "self image".
I don't know what her family and friends knows, I could really care less, but his family and friends knows the truth. Sadly I think they actually believe the image they are trying to portray. I think Brokenhearted? is a little to far.

I've always wonder if my WxH even mourned our marriage. He never told me he was sorry, but he did tell me the affair wasn't justifed. I guess I would feel better if he just cried or show some emotion. We did have a special relationship and I know he once adored, cherish and loved me, our marriage was based on love and trust, and there wasn't any lies or hearts breaking from our courtship.

Just a note...I see their pictures on the website. He used to be a very handsome, but I don't know if stress, or the OW but age has not been kind to him. Plus, his sparkle is missing from his eyes when he smiles. He even color his hair he has left, Not the same man I married.

{{{{HD2}}}}

Your WXH has a spouse-to-be whose morality does not intimidate him.

An affair marriage is like a voodoo magic spell. It requires a living sacrifice to raisse up.

It takes the lifeblood of at least one marriage and the agony of betrayal of at least one BS to raise up such a spectre. Such is almost occult IMO.

Your WXH's new marriage will be an unholy thing built on the murder of a marriage and the attempted murder of the heart of a good woman. Fed on lies and delusions and a rewriting of history.

I wish it nothing but ill, but with those ingredients it is no wonder affair marriages are so ill starred.

Be dignified and know that this, too, shall pass.

All blessings.

MEDC raising his hand! A good loyal and caring woman is very attractive. Don't waste any more hurt on this loser... he is not deserving of your time.

Let me guess... are getting married around a "craps" table??

((Hopelessly Devoted))

I am so sorry for the pain you are going through.

No good comes from the ashes of a marriage torn apart by an affair.

She will forever wonder if another women will take her ill gotten husband away, just as she took him away from you.


My father's affairs and marriages were proof that what comes around goes around. He cheated on every last wife with the next wife to be.


Take care of yourself......


kd's heartbreak

Vegas wedding, lucky 7, it's all a gamble to them.

They are rolling the dice.

The odds, they aren't in their favor.

The "house" in this case, is the house that came before, the one the OW broke up.

My uncle left his wife for another woman. He went back to the wife while engaged to the OW, asking his wife to take him back! On his ANNIVERSARY of the first marriage! My aunt was floored, and would have taken him back....except he was just so stupid - he hadn't broken it off with OW, and my MIL called him on it right then and there, while he stood with his frilly anniversary card in his hand, begging my aunt to forgive him, take him back, yadda, yadda, yadda. My MIL steps in and says, "So, does your FIANCE know you're here?????????"

He gasps. He's caught. My aunt and MIL just laugh and laugh. He leaves. Marries OW.

That marriage? Not so very good. We hear it's on the skids.

The "house".....holds the odds.

It's hard to hear this news, because you hold the memory of the true H, beneath what he became. That is who you still love, what you remember. You hold that man dear.

OW, well, she is marrying WH. She isn't marrying the man you had. Remember that.

SB