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WH came over yesterday to take the kids for a few hours.
Now I don't want to sound like a person that needs a Mother's Day gift, because my kids are my gifts, but I was hoping that WH wouild have at least asked the kids what I would like for Mother's Day and bought it for me while they were out, a gift from the kids. He knows they don't have have the resources to buy me anything on their own.
Last year he asked the kids what I wanted and got me a gift, from them. But that was before the A was exposed and before I served him the D papers.
Am I making too much out of this? It just hurt, I guess.
As I said I don't NEED a gift, just thought it would have been nice.
Guess I know what to get him for Father's Day.
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No you are not making too much out of this. I even got my ex WW a mother's day gift from the children. Did she deserve it? No, but it was the right thing to do. Now picture this....here you are the BETRAYED not the wayward so its a little bit different. He unlike my case where I am the betrayed is uncapable of being human. He was wrong, knows he was and is wrong, and yet is seeking to punish you for his bad behavior and choices. Makes no sense does it?
Barring a supernatural intervention, wake up call that only the Lord can provide you are going to be better off without this WAYWARD husband.
{{{Catgirl}}}}
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I agree...
As the days go on, I am feeling less and less for him. (Never thought I would ever say that!)
They say that one day you will realize that you are doing the right thing re: D. I am beginning to realize it now.
He's a jerk.
I do deserve better.
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Catgirl, I got the same - nothing. My friend took my kids shopping at the dollar store so I did get a card and a little gift from my kids.
XH (if you see my thread, I'm actually trying to rebuild, post-divorce, and I'm the BS). It's a slow process, but I'd hoped he'd take the kids shopping.
It's not about *what* I would have received, just that he'd do that for his kids, and show a little 'preesh for me raising OUR kids on my own...he's active in the kids' lives - he had ample opportunity...
He was NEVER one for Hallmark Holidays so I guess I shouldn't take it so personally - this wasn't different from any other Mother's Day - married or not.
I hear you though - we go to such lengths to make holidays special for everybody else, and all too often we don't get even a stinking card in return.
Feeling your pain..
JinGA
F/40, DD15 DS13
M 1989
DDay his EA May 1998.
S Aug 2004.
D Dec 05. I filed.
4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R.
6/23/07 XH said no to R.
8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B".
1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day.
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You two fine ladies remember what you have typed her and EXPECT to be treated well in your next relationship and if someone is not doing it, FIND someone that will. You both deserve better than you have been getting.
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