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Silent,

I like that one..... can I have it WSFB????

Still don't know what the intials stand for.... even DS14 doesn't know


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BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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WSFB (Wayward [censored] for brains!)

I am a potty mouth, but have had to tone that down since DS can repeat what I say. I say POO with him or dang, or stinks. So G rated now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Silent,

I knew what poo meant <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm still trying to figure out SBD.


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BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Alright, I can't believe no body's figured it out.

Silent But Deadly.

Do I need to further explain?


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OMG...ROFL...I did know that one and I should have known it...especially coming from you.

I about passed out when the "I FFFAAAARRRRTTTTTTT in your general direction" statement was made!!!

Now I am going to yell out what my kids do when gas has been passed...SAFETY!


BW 35 (Me) WH 35 DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3 Married 1994 Dday 7-9-06 Plan B started 12-24-06 Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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i think I'll stick with PODS!


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It really is a good one!


BW 35 (Me) WH 35 DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3 Married 1994 Dday 7-9-06 Plan B started 12-24-06 Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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Thanks, he earned it today! Actually I need to find a worse name than that!


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Beau, if I had put the acronym in context with my brain, which is not firing on all cylinders these days, I would have gotten it.


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As soon as I typed the word silent I was suddenly thinking double meaning.

Dare I say that could be your porn name. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Coming this fall

SBD in "The Protein Room" bow chica bow bow

I'm going to he11 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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Well, Beau, we all knew that!

Hmmmm, it could be a murder mystery, sexploitation. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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believe it or not. I was an alter boy for 8 years.

I was alter boy of the year when I was 13.

That's right, an AWARD winning alter boy

I'm not worried though, Satan's gonna get tired of me pretty quick. Plus, I plan on dying the year the Saints win the Super Bowl. I can't go to he11 if it's frozen.


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IHC,

How about an update. Anything going on?


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IHC, SL,

Does that news shock you? Alter boy? I was...still hard to believe...I think that should be his MB Photo! LMAO

It's okay, BC...STBX was driving the bus to he)), and I was sitting in the passenger seat but that may have changed in the last few years...

LMAO...and not STBX driving...

Yeah, IHC...WHATZ' UP wit ya?


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I am feeling very overwhelmed right now...with work, finances, kids, BDS...it is all a little too much right now.

I am getting so frustrated at work right now and just want to quit...but that is the emotional side of it. The rational side of it is that I have 5 kids and a WH that cannot seem to come up with his CS on a regular basis.

Do any of you every find all this so overwhelming it makes you want to quit and just start over completely?

I have a new home, I am soon to be divorced and now I just want a new workplace. But it isn't feasible.

I can't just go get a job and make what I am making and have free child care. I'd have to make about 25 an hour. I have no degree...so that is highly unlikely! I am one of those people that can learn very quickly...ususally get promoted rather quickly...but I never finished school. I am 2 classes from my AS in mathematics.

When I was going to school I always thought I would be a college math professor...but that is not what I would enjoy now. I have found I really enjoy management type positions...I like working with people...taking on an issue and working it out and making things succeed.

Anyway...I am just really down about work and don't know how much of it is affair related and how much of it is genuine readiness to be in a new job. I've been here 8 years.

WH showed up to our kids spring program/graduation last night. It is at my work and our church..so it was not a fun thing for him to do. Apparently he came in late and left early...I saw him hiding in the shadows. I, if I do say so, looked hot and he should have been really mad at himself for losing me!

BDS did leave BEFORE DS5's graduation ceremony though...what a BDS!!! Kids did not even know he was there!

All 3 older kids refuse to go to dad's tonight. Only the 2 little ones want to go.

I am still confused as to whether or not I make it mandatory that they go. It just seems so unfair to have to spend time with someone you are angry with.

Anyway...kind of been a couple of stinky days...bad enough that I started taking my ad's again. (Knew it was the right thing after I snipped at my boss...shame on me!)

I JUST WANT A VACATION FROM REALITY...just a short one...k?!


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July 7, Denver, Be There for Cajun Fest 07. Bring an extra liver and a defibrulator.

and this is for feeling overwhelmed

((((Cajun Bear Hug))))


I know how rough it is. I guess I'm lucky to have a job I love, so that helps with getting through this mess.

If you do send all the kids to BDS's tonight, try and do something for yourself. You're in serious need of some self care.

That's why I'm going to see Chris in Denver.

Take Care IHC


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I am very worried for the town of Denver...

Should be going to dinner with my parents and brother this evening...just grown ups...then hopefully Pirates tomorrow!!!

At least there will be some eye candy in the movie! I am developing a sweet eye...it is growing much quicker than my sweet tooth did as a child!!!


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I am developing a sweet eye...it is growing much quicker than my sweet tooth did as a child!!!

Good for you, IHC. Gotta remember to take care of yourself. Sometimes we start to forget that.

(((IHC)))

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Rough weekend...I think all the triggers that have been coming (and I thought were rolling by unnoticed) hit all at once. (anniversary, his new baby, lack of CS being paid, kids visits...or lack thereof, start of the physical part of their affair at the one year mark)

I am angry again. I have started having dreams about BDS again. Some "good" some bad.

DS5 asked me to pray for him last night...I asked what he wanted me to pray for and his reply..."That I won't have bad dreams and for a new daddy."

I cried. All my little man wants is a dad and right now, a new one because his old one is "broken"!

BDS keeps getting further and further behind on CS. Even when he gets his wages garnished he will still owe me each month.

If we could get our property sold, then that would be the final thing tying me to him (without the kids...which are a permanant tie). I think I will feel completely free then.

Just a rough weekend...even though it was a good one.


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(((((IHC))))

Oh sweetie, I so understand where you are coming from...I have the bad dreams too! Sat. night was him locking me into a box...you know the kind you lay in...a coffin...and then Sun. it was about 200 dollars...I had the hardest time getting that out of him...

I'm getting the comments from the little one too and it just pulls at your heart...

YOU ARE SOOOO NOT ALONE!

I was pretty bad on the triggers before I left...I remember that so well...

I'm sorry that you and the kids are having a rough time right now...it will get better! Trust that God's got a better plan for you and that the valley's not so deep once you are on the other side...

Just as Jesus suffered for us we must suffer to be like him...I hope that these words are comforting in some way! I think the world of you! What a great mother...I would have been so blessed!

keep your head up...you are so strong and a firm foundation for not only your kids but OP here! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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