Shattered,<P>I'm sorry I'm late here... I'm torn about your letter. I think I would send it as is, but I also think it will probably fall on deaf ears.<P>I have never agreed with the idea of alimony or taking retirement. Just me, I guess. My H and I talked about this. We've been married almost 20 yrs. and I would never ever take what is rightfully his. Your house, however, is in both names. Your retirement I'd fight tooth and nail for...<P>Hope this helps...<P>So sorry it's come to this for you, I know how hard this has been for you [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>