My original posts are here: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...e=0#Post3231199 and here: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...=0#Post3237542.

There seems to be more traffic in this area so I'll restart.

After four weeks of NC we bumped into the OP. I went mad and informed our parents and our child. She went to stay with her Mom overnight and had phone contact with the OP. She came back the following day saying she wanted to try again. I've subsequently discovered that several of her friends knew about the A despite her originally telling me they didn't. More lies.

She is the gloomiest I have ever seen.

I've managed to identify the OP and where he lives. He's divorced but has an adult daughter. Haven't managed to identify his parents. Don't know if he has a girlfriend.

I could contact his daughter privately via her blog to expose the affair in his life. My motive is in part to give the affair as much exposure as possible but I also want to create problems for him. Revenge seems a bit unhealthy to me.

Should I do it?

Is there another source? Children have a hard time when they hear their parents are jerks.

L.

I assume that you have read the background lessons from Dr. Harley that are part of this web site. I assume that you have ordered Surviving an Affair by Harley or have ordered it and awaiting its arrival.

I assume that you have read the core posts over on Just Found Out like WATs stuff and others.

I assume you have read about Plan A and Plan B and that you have read through other threads here to get a feel for Stuff.

Am I correct?

Larry