Here's an additional bit of information today. I did talk to my husband on the phone after I posted this. I apologized profusly and didn't know what else to say. I asked him if he was coming home and he said 'I doubt it'. He said the things that I said when I was wasted hurt more than any physical scars that I may have given him. He said he could never forgive me.
In addition here are some e-mails we exchanged throughout the day. It all started when he sent me a link to the job site below. And then I called and left a message for him to send my sympathy to his family because his aunt died.
I guess my big question is, he is showimg me he still cares and is worried. Right?
Now I guess I need to take action for myself.
From: HIM
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 12:05 PM
To: ME
Subject: RE:
And you don’t need AA, in my opinion. You need to learn how to be happy and how to cope with problems in a non alcoholic non violent way. That’s what I learned after years of being mostly unhappy and drinking when I got sad. I learned how to have fun again, how to be happy, and how I care about myself even when you don’t. If you want to hit something, try hitting the punching bag instead of someone else.
For example, I was shaking I was so pissed off after I listened to your mothers message to my parents. So I had a drink with Mark who calmed me down, and then I went and ran hills for 90 min just like I planned to before the other night. It’s on my training schedule I made for myself, so I did it. I will race and do well this summer, and nothing you say or do will stop that. Cause its I want and it’s good for me. The one thing you have is rowing and your coffee with Ruth and you are not even doing that. You are putting yourself into this hole deeper and deeper. You need to do positive things like rowing. It helps you in so many ways that ever quest, drinking, or sitting home never will.
I will call you at work when I get on the road to CT if you want.
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From: ME
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 12:01 PM
To: HIM
Subject: RE:
I'm not doing well at all. I think I need to go to AA for real.
How are you? Have the wounds healed?
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From: HIM
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 11:57 AM
To: ME
Subject: RE:
OH, I though you meant they were staying at a hotel.
Ok. How are you.
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From: ME
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 11:52 AM
To: HIM
Subject: RE:
they went to do a few errands, and my dad had to go to FR to collect money from some lady...
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From: HIM
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 11:45 AM
To: ME
Subject: RE:
Why are they not staying in the house?
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From: ME
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 11:38 AM
To: HIM
Subject: RE:
They are not back home. They are still in NA but not in the house.
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From: HIM
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 11:34 AM
To: ME
Subject: RE:
Thank you for message. I will send your condolences.
Where are your parents? Are they back home or here in NA?
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From: ME
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 10:54 AM
To: HIM
Subject: RE:
thanks
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From: HIM
Sent: Friday, May 18, 2007 10:42 AM
To: ME
Subject:
http://finance.yahoo.com/career-work/art...nking-budgeting