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But I DO respect you more than most. Thank you B. One thing I have always liked about you... even when we disagree, you know that my motives are pure. For that consideration, you have my thanks. MEDC
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Ummmm, XXXXcuse me, but princesses don't <SNORT> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Ummmm, XXXXcuse me, but princesses don't <SNORT> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> shaddup, you are my puppet!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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we find it's much easier communicating across the table with you and your husband over say, coffee, eggs and bacon. You see? This is clear proof that this "behind the scenes" communication is unhealthy for all involved. Nobody with any credentials would recommend this. All that caffeine and cholesterol? What were you thinking?
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And princesses DO TOO snort in TEXAS!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
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So, Mel, I'm nodding off here. What do you think about Plan A, meeting EN's and exposing the BS to STD's?
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So, Mel, I'm nodding off here. What do you think about Plan A, meeting EN's and exposing the BS to STD's? I am not partial to STDs. How bout you?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Am I missing something here??? Or are we playing verbal gymnastics? I think what I am hearing Believer ask is for opinions on SF with a WS. Maybe I am just tired.
Anyway, goodnight all.
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So, Mel, I'm nodding off here. WOW Believer is asleep at the wheel. Who ever would have guessed that.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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Well, I gave her my opinion. night, MEDC.
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You see? This is clear proof that this "behind the scenes" communication is unhealthy for all involved.
Nobody with any credentials would recommend this.
All that caffeine and cholesterol? What were you thinking? Stop it Pio - you're killing me here!!
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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Goodnight MEDC. Apparently the BS needs to meet the WS's needs and bathe in the seminal fluids of who knows who. I guess for some folks a recovered marriage is worth the chance. Not me.
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I guess for some folks a recovered marriage is worth the chance. Not me. ditto.
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So, Mel, I'm nodding off here. What do you think about Plan A, meeting EN's and exposing the BS to STD's? As a BS who was exposed to STDs by her then-cheating-H resulting in stage 3 cervical cancer, I can tell you its NOT worth it. One might as well play Russian Roulette. <feels her flat head hair> Whoops! My name isn't Mel, is it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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Can I ask a question (since I have a little experience with this)?
I think it is fair to say that many BS's are unknowingly exposed to this risk prior to Dday. My WW continued to have SF with both OM and me for several months before I discovered the A. I also contracted an STD that won't go away and might even require some surgery if it gets much worse.
If we assume that OP is "faithful" to your WS after Dday, how much greater is the risk of contracting an STD since you have already been exposed? I am not advocating SF during Plan A BTW, I think this is a medical question that I simply don't know the answer to. I suspect that it is possible that a BS might not yet have contracted the STD (depending on the STD) so that increaded exposure does represent additional risk.
I certainly wish I didn't have my STD. Every day is a painful (literally) reminder.
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And princesses DO TOO snort in TEXAS!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Er, it depends. At the risk of offending, JAPS in certain clubs do snort. So do those with long horns out west of you. On the other hand, you are in the piney woods, so what are you snorting, pine cones? Larry
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I guess for some folks a recovered marriage is worth the chance. Nor me.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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Probably the most humiliated I have seen my wife was when she went off to get checked for STDs. She was in denial about them. But she isn't stupid, so she said.
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Pio - I think you summed it up pretty well. The risk *may* be diminished but still not worth the risk IMO. Is there any such thing as a faithful WS? Would you want to bet your health on it?
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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Crazy stuff we WWs (FWW in my case)... so right after DDay #1, I discovered I had contracted an STD whose resolution was horribly painful. I remember laying there on the table crying, sobbing in pain, thinking I would sooner go through this torment every day of my life than EVER sleep with POS OM who gave me this ever again. I confronted him - watched him lie to me & tell me he had never been with anyone else besides me & his W. And HATED him... for about 6 months.
Even the look on my H's face when I told him, even the memory of the horrible pain, was apparently not enough to keep me from taking another hit.
Makes me want to puke now - but then? All it took was one sad sorrowful apology and I was hooked again. Ick.
~lostsheep
Me, FWW -34
Him, BH - 36
DD6
Dday#1 - 3/04
NC broken 4/04, A resumed 3/05
Dday#2 - 7/05
Dday#3 - 3/06
NC 2/5/07
H moved out 4/06, asked me to file for DV 11/06
DV final 3/7/07
...trying to be H's friend again...and finding my way
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