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Need advice on how to cope after finding out girlfriend cheated DELETED #1880746 05/24/07 02:34 PM
Joined: May 2007 Posts: 1 M ManInPain Junior Member
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Re: Need advice on how to cope after finding out girlfriend cheated ManInPain #1880747 05/24/07 03:05 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	I am sorry you are in so much pain. Pre-marital cheating is a big red flag ... this may not help your pain, but you ought to consider giving her 'space' ... by backing off 100% from the relationship .... let her come to you. Don't think about marriage unless she agrees to go to pre-marriage counseling. We can fall in love with a person who is not going to be a very good life-partner. This may be the case here. LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Need advice on how to cope after finding out girlfriend cheated ManInPain #1880748 05/24/07 03:07 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote I cannot stop thinking about or imagining her being intimate with someone else (especially as we had been intimate that same morning). ewwwwwwwwwwwwww <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Need advice on how to cope after finding out girlfriend cheated DELETED ManInPain #1880749 05/24/07 08:18 PM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554 M ManInMotion Member
ManInMotion Member M Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554	Quote Post deleted by ManInPain BTDT. I chose to get M'd to the person who cheated on me. 12 years later, it happened again, only now the betrayal was much worse, and there are two kids and communal property involved, so I couldn't just walk away. My advice - walk away. She's already demonstrated that she does not respect you enough to stay faithful to you. ManInMotion =========== (see "MiM's Story" for more details)

Re: Need advice on how to cope after finding out girlfriend cheated DELETED ManInMotion #1880750 05/24/07 09:03 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	hello? leaving so soon? LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Need advice on how to cope after finding out girlfriend cheated DELETED Pepperband #1880751 05/24/07 11:17 PM
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County B believer Member
believer Member B Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County	Naybe she is reading here, and wasn't too fond of the advice.

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