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I am sorry you are in so much pain.

Pre-marital cheating is a big red flag ... this may not help your pain, but you ought to consider giving her 'space' ... by backing off 100% from the relationship .... let her come to you.

Don't think about marriage unless she agrees to go to pre-marriage counseling.

We can fall in love with a person who is not going to be a very good life-partner.
This may be the case here.

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I cannot stop thinking about or imagining her being intimate with someone else (especially as we had been intimate that same morning).


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BTDT. I chose to get M'd to the person who cheated on me. 12 years later, it happened again, only now the betrayal was much worse, and there are two kids and communal property involved, so I couldn't just walk away.

My advice - walk away. She's already demonstrated that she does not respect you enough to stay faithful to you.


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hello?

leaving so soon?

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Naybe she is reading here, and wasn't too fond of the advice.


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