It is better to keep trying so that whatever happens, you can look back and know that you did your very best. Just keep taking good care of yourself, improve your life, and hopefully he will join you.

We'll see.

I have been having a great time! I am making a name for myself at our ball field. I am no longer WH's wife. I have a name now. A personality.

I love my newfound freedom to be ME.

So, this morning I woke up after having the most ridiculous dream. In it, the OW emailed me and told me that WH left her for someone else.

Then, she proceeded to tell me everything about her "relationship" with WH.

In all of this, I have never even contemplated getting ahold of the OW. Dreams are very, very odd...

The past two days have been rough for me. I woke up this morning and I was so sad. I had another dream last night, but this one was WH. And, I can't get him off of my mind.

I had been doing so well too. Have I mentioned I hate these rides? I've never been a carnival person. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

Strap on your seatbelt. That is why we call it the rollercoaster - there will be lots of days where you feel just fine, and then the awful days.

Are you staying busy taking good care of yourself?

Absolutely! I have made a ton of new friends. They have been there for me, and helped me immensely.

After feeling so down, I went out with a girlfriend. We chatted for awhile, got some sun, she told me she saw WH yesterday and he bolted when he saw her lol..

I just had a great time. Had a couple of drinks, went out for dinner.

Now, I just came home and cleaned (including the toilet)

I love life now. I just sometimes miss the old life.

WH sent me an email asking where I want the truck left. Seems he has decided he wants absolutely nothing to do with our stuff, but is wanting to keep our car insurance the same. He is driving the car that has HIS name on it now.

Best advice you can give me? Do I remove him from our insurance policy?

Yes, you should remove him from your insurance policy. You do not support or enable him while he is such an unrepentant WS.

I will wait to do that until I get paid. He is being forced by me to take care of his part.

He also sent me another email tonight asking again where to leave the truck, because I did not reply to his first one from late this afternoon.

Made sure to bring up the letter from his lawyer... not sure why.

I think I am going to wait until at least tomorrow to reply. I am just too busy to worry about this right now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

This weekend is Canada Day, so I have been invited to go camping with a friend. I have not been camping in years!!! I am gonna say at least 5 years (one because WH is not the outdoorsy type.. .and two because my grandparents had sold their camp)

I love it though! I know this is a part of my new life. Getting back to what I love!

I emailed WH this morning about the truck. Told him just to drop the keys off to me and I would pick it up.

He replied back that he would leave the keys in the vehicle. Even better for me... then I don't have to see his miserable face. I replied back that he might as well leave the cheques in the vehicle as well.

A friend saw him at the store the other day. He looked directly at her, and as she started towards him to say hi, he started down the aisle, and around the corner, so she sped up to see where he went and when she got tehre he was gone.

How pathetic!!!!

I don't know what to do. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Happy Canada Day. Hope you have fun camping. Watch out for bears.

When you get back, stay in Plan A.

Thanks Believer. I actually chose to stay home this weekend after all.

As far as the plan goes. My life is it... but not for my marriage. That is over. I am living for me. My WH has made it so I cannot see nor speak to him... and I am okay with that. I am relieved to not have to see him.

As far as the OW, she has not won anything. She has a lying, pathetic excuse of a man in her cltches... and she can do with him what she wants.

I feel sorry for him sometimes, because I see what his life has become. No friends, a ball team that hates him, and lies... still to this day.

He runs from people who see him, cannot look people in the eye, and honestly looks horrible.

I, on the other hand, am so completely different, that I sometimes don't recognize myself. And, I like that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

God sent me on this path... and I like the outcome.

I am okay... and I will be for the rest of my life.

Glad you are doing okay. I don't really know how an affair can change them so much. I used to say my ex was a very good man. He treated everyone well, and was respected and admired. After the affair her turned into a person I don't recognize and wouldn't want even as an acquaintance. So don't know if he was hiding this other side all those years (15) or if he just changed. It is sad.

But my ex wasn't ashamed to be seen. He continued talking to friends and giving his spin, and invited the OW along just like she was the new wife. It was very strange.

At least your husband seems to realize that he is doing something wrong.

Update:

My life is fantastic. I am really doing wonderfully.

WH was not paying me for his part of the car insurance, so I sent him an email to tell him... enough was enough.

By the time I got to work an hour and a half later, there was an envelope delivered there for me with cheques in it. He is now paid till the end of the month, and has said he will be on his own next month.

Good riddance.

A friend ran into him one night after a ball game. He was sitting at a table with another of our friends, so my girlfriend walked right up to the table to talk with the other guy. WH did not once look up from the table. She kept her eyes on him the whole time. OW however, sneered at her the whole time she wasa standing there. Luckily for her, my girlfriend was in a good mood.

I am actually starting t ofeel sorry for WH. He screwed up his life, is uncomfortable everywhere, and has no one to turn too.

I, in turn, have made great new friends. A girl that I was bitter enemies with 6 months ago, is my best friend in this world. I love her to death.

Thank you for all you have done for me MarriageBuilders visitors. You all have done me so much by being here through my tears, my confusion, and my Plan.

In Canada, Plan D can only be implemented after one year of seperation, so, things will come to a head then. I have a sneaking suspicion WH will want to come home before then, but I DO KNOW that there isn't a home left for him to come home to.

My life is great. I intend to keep it that way.

NWTT:

Good for you.

Might be time to drop by looking fabulous, fresh and appealing.

Just to make sure HE KNOWS.

LG

Meh. He'll know one day.

I don't need to do anything to get his attention cause honestly, I don't want it.

Glad you are doing okay. Just keep making your life a good one, and when the affair ends, maybe he will want to join you again - IF you still want him. Often it turns out the BS doesn't want them back. It just depends on how long this drags on and how awful he is.

Yeah. He is not going to be welcome back. I am happy now.

So what has made you so happy so soon? Usually it takes a couple of years to be completely happy again.

My friends. All of teh love and support they have shown me. My family. Who have been there to help me.

And my WH. Who has treated me like garbage for months now. Who has kicked me when I am down. Who has done what he could to make me feel like I am worthless.

My life is better without him in it.