So I am inventing the FACTS that Spectacles, The new PinkPaige, Cinnamon sugar and others wrote they took huge encouragement from the legitimisation of Jillys marriage ? And because some recovered BS were able to help her, that means ALL bs are fine with having A-marriages supported on the MB town square ?

Thats a pretty weighty extrapolation there LH. A very very selfish one. " it doesn;t bother me, so it doesn't matter if it bothers many others".

And because YOU PERSONALLY for whatever reason take no offence at an affair marriage, despite MANY FWS and more recent BS and than you being hurt and demotivated by a-marriage support you would force a lesson in YOUR marrige potics or forgiveness on all of us?

Let me ask you this. Will you have enough Christian kindness to just get out of Star*Fish's way?

Will YOU have enough Christian kindness to avoid needlessly hurting and demotivating the MANY as you help the VERY FEW ?

Your "kindness" is for the one at the expense of the many. That looks more like self interest than any flavour of kindness to me LH.

Did your marrige spring from an affair a long time ago, LH by any chance ?

Kiwi, if you had come here as a WS who had married the OM, but was shamed and contrite, I would not have sent you away. I would have blasted you with 2X4s and watched your reaction to see where you were coming from. If you convinced me you were repentent, I would have done my level best to help you get through that time, whether your marriage could have been saved or not. You see, I just don't think there are throw-away people. If anyone truly repents, I'll assume they have made their peace with God and I will not act in discordance with Him.

But you bring up a good point. There are some threads out here that are offensive and hurtful to FWS's. Shall we then ban all threads that have the potential to maybe to someone...anyone, or even one person...at some time?

I've been waiting for someone to suggest a compromise but it hasn't been forthcoming.

WHAT ON EARTH have I been proposing if not a compromise ? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Is it beyond your comprehension LH ? Or perhaps you are doing me the "courtesy" of ignoring my credible, reasonable copromise proposals that if agreed with by too many others would mean you don't get your way ?

Shall we then ban all threads that have the potential to maybe to someone...anyone, or even one person...at some time?


No but where we can predict that certain posters situations will have a likely anti-marriagebuilding effect we can help them in a quieter place than main street.

Wow ? Sounds like a compromise proposal !

BP, I made no such assertion, and you, sir, know it. I used the example of several BS’s working on MFZ’s thread to help him. Additionally, I used myself as an example to illustrate the fact that you were “at least partially” incorrect.

No, BP. I’m not married and haven’t been for 33½ years. My wife cheated on me 34 years ago. (This paragraph has been edited from this point forward to remove private information. If you need to know what it was, email me.)

The next time, sir, that you presume to impugn my motives, I suggest you have some idea what you’re talking about. Insults do NOT advance the discussion and they are intellectually dishonest.

That's no compromise, BP, that's shunning.

No, I just don't agree.

Why are you resorting to insults, sir? Can we not keep this on a high plane?

LH I know a very great deal about affairs, about marriagebuilding, about psychology, about being suicidal after being cheated on, and about psychiatric help.

I also know about the various strategies that people use deliberately or involuntarily to defend or advance an assertion against fact or competing theory. Epistemology is an interesting topic.

I cannot see where I insulted you LH. I intended irony not offence. I regret any offence I caused you.

Supporting affair mariages on GQ 2 hurts BS and FWS and encourages WS and OPS and there is proof of this.

I have proposed my compromise for avoiding bunfights every time an a-marriage shows up AND from disheartening the vulnerable.

That has been ignored by many folks with an agenda that I suspect will only be met if everyone else gets a forced forgiveness lesson in main square heartbreak every time an affair-spouse shows up.

I have no more to add to this thread at this time.

Vaya con Dios LH.

You can't even apologize gracefully, BP? If you had, I would forgive you, you know.

Sorry BP, your attempts to diminish your insulting remark won’t work. Your arrogant, and petty attempt at “irony” was intended to suggest I was acting from less than the highest of motives and thereby disparage me. Your purpose is clear to anyone who reads the passage. From your words, sir, you are not nearly the man I thought you were.

Since you will not repent your insult...because you will not admit your transgression...I do not see you. You do not exist. I shun you.

Have the Harleys ever said anything about their stance on affair marriages? Does anyone know?

I shun you.


I won't notice, LH, you don't take any notice of anything I say anyway, apart from something you can interpet as an insult.

I asked if your marriage had started in an affair. I have been asked teh same thing. I did not consider it insulting.

TT not in public, but yes in private. I will not break a confidence however.

THIS is a GREAT line. Much better than "talk to the hand". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Obviously LH is showing himself to be a windbag yet again. I prefer to have him on ignore...he makes more sense when I can't read his mindless posts.

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oops, thanks pio