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Lousy Golfer wrote:
Is this site overrun with Affair Marriages seeking support? Thankfully not yet. However, as long as people remain quiet in real life and otherwise, one day it very well may be the case.
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Would it help to make a distinction between:
1) Affair marriages in which the spouses do not have remorse for their past mistakes.
2) Affair marriages in which the spouse says well duh I should have known a cheater would cheat on me too, but it's too late for those past marriages to be reconciled, so what do I do now to save THIS marriage?
My previous comments had couple #2 in mind. It did not occur to me that anyone from couple #1 would visit these boards, but I haven't been here very long.
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[color:"red"] LG [/color] And bias against another strictly for one part of thier being is discrimination What ????????? Are you suggesting that adultery is a part of someone's being, like eye color, and NOT a bad choice? Is there something wrong with discriminating against bad choices?
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Pep, mebbe it is in their GENES? **snort** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Many of us have been here doing the heavy lifting FOR YEARS while you were out having your affair. *raises hand*
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NOW Lousy Golfer back peddals and writes: Did I say that everyone around here didn't help, ever? No, I said that this thread and the ZOG thread were getting action and the people who were coming here for HELP for the first time, were getting ignored. Hmm ... And here's what he's trying to back peddal out of: [color:"blue"]What this thread really points out is how little MOST of the people on this thread DON'T help and DON'T CARE. [/color] [color:"black"] I'd like to point out that in that point in time when you wrote the above in Blue, MOST of the people that were posting on this thread were vets. People (hypocrites according to you) that have been supporting MB for YEARS.[/color]
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Pep, mebbe it is in their GENES? **snort** No...the problem is that they took it OUT of their jeans... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> committed
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MEDC:
Please refain from commenting on the status of my M. When you have been in a long-term relationship that survives, I will be able to accept your comments.
Mel's, Pep's and others, if they wish to comment, those I can respect.
So, please, leave it alone.
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Resilent:
Valid point, I was rather broad in my earlier brush, and you pointed that out.
My second post was more to the point I was trying to make.
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for reference I am UNmedicated so far today about to go take my DRUGS BEWARE !!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Affair marriages almost never work. The dynamics of the affair itself insures this unhappy consequence.
They see only the bold words.
Larry not bad at all larry for a Texan, you're allright Thanks for fixing consequences when you quoted <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Larry
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Please refain from commenting on the status of my M. When you have been in a long-term relationship that survives, I will be able to accept your comments and when YOU have been a BS I will accept your having anything to say about how the matters at hand impact a BS. And the only reason you have a long term relationship, is that your wife chose to forgive your transgressions.
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Mel: It was a dreadful analogy, LG, and I am embarrassed for you. To equate RACE discrimination is ludicrous and to imply that others on this thread don't help others is outrageous. Many of us have been here doing the heavy lifting FOR YEARS while you were out having your affair. I am gonna go hide. Mel is in guilt trip mode today. Be afraid people, be very afraid. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Larry
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I am gonna go hide. Mel is in guilt trip mode today. Be afraid people, be very afraid. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Larry Naw, Mel is in REALITY CHECK MODE directed towards a certain FWS who implied that others are not helping around here. If he feels "guilty" about that true statement, then the shoe must fit. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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for reference I am UNmedicated so far today about to go take my DRUGS BEWARE !!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> hopefully she has her britches on today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Many of us have been here doing the heavy lifting FOR YEARS while you were out having your affair. exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well said ML... and I owe a lot to those people.
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Pep: This was the entire quote: And bias against another strictly for one part of thier being is discrimination. That is the reference. (Skin color is not a choice, but waywardness IS, True) I am not saying that waywardness is in the genes, (however, it is out of the jeans.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />.) But if we start excluding others for whatever one thing we might find offensive, pretty soon alot of us will be excluded here. And needless to say, considering my status, I would be next in line, wouldn't I? And as for this: Many of us have been here doing the heavy lifting FOR YEARS while you were out having your affair. That's true. And when Flamingo found this website and directed me here, it destroyed my A. (Harley's info, not the discussion board, however!) AND if I/we had found it earlier, it would have destroyed the A earlier. Sorry to be late for the party. But I didn't get an invitation. And Flamingo certainly didn't like hers.....
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LG wrote:
I am not saying that waywardness is in the genes, (however, it is out of the jeans.. .) But if we start excluding others for whatever one thing we might find offensive, pretty soon alot of us will be excluded here.
And needless to say, considering my status, I would be next in line, wouldn't I? Sir, There is a BIG difference between a FWS and an Affair Marriage couple. The difference is within the FJo
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and when YOU have been a BS I will accept your having anything to say about how the matters at hand impact a BS. MEDC - you should know better than to resort to the same things you object to. BTW, the last time I checked, I am a former BS and have a recovered marriage following my wife's very long term, very involved, affair. But I'm a "dope" and a "church of one" according to you, so where exactly is your ability to accept comments? Is it only with those who agree with your position and/or opinion? I am NOT defending LG, but I am curious about your criteria for "acceptance of someone's comments" who you might even disagree with. Consistancy and walking the talk is what I am having trouble sorting out from your various comments.
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fh... I see from the re: mkeverydaycnt that you have responded to a few of my posts... as I have told you before, it is my choice to ignore your posts at this time. There has been too much "stuff" between us and frankly I was not willing to allow it to continue.
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