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Re: He's home but not cooperating.
HeCheatedAgain #1883044 06/18/07 07:46 PM
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Accusations without excellent proof aren't good. If they aren't doing anything, it makes them angry. If they are, it makes them more careful. Better to just go happily on being a good wife.

He could be in withdrawal and secretly wanting to hear from her, but don't fret about it. If he is up to something, it will come out. And then he won't have the excuse that you didn't trust him anyway.
Re: He's home but not cooperating.
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You're right. Thanks believer and pepper for your excellent advice. If I had gone with my gut I would have called and blasted him. I'm still holding myself back from calling actually. I hope I can keep it in when he gets home. I'll let you know how it went.

Me-41 WH-41 Married 18 years S-14, D-20 DD#1-OCT 06-told me hes leaving me for OW DD#2-May 8/07-actually left with OW May 15/07-ended it with OW
Re: He's home but not cooperating.
HeCheatedAgain #1883046 06/18/07 08:10 PM
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At this stage, it is better to come here and vent. We understand. That way you won't explode on your husband.
Re: He's home but not cooperating.
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Believer and Pepper,
Thanks so much for listening to me vent yesterday and giving me awesome advice. I controlled my urge to call him, went for a run with my son (I have lost 40 pounds since this whole thing started and feel great actually), and he called later. He was all excited about a proposal he was presenting and read it to me over the phone (so I guess he was at work), and I listened and told him how great I thought it sounded. He came home and called me on his cell to come to the garage. I went out (all bathed and smelling great), and he hugged and kissed me and told me he loves me and wanted me to give him a hicky! I would have completely messed things up if I had gone with my panic and called him. I'll leave the issue for a time when he is receptive to the conversation. Thanks so much for saving me!

Me-41 WH-41 Married 18 years S-14, D-20 DD#1-OCT 06-told me hes leaving me for OW DD#2-May 8/07-actually left with OW May 15/07-ended it with OW
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