Well, we have our separation agreement written and we are going to city hall this morning to get it signed and witnessed. Since OW moved out of her house 10 days ago, he has spent a total of 3 nights sleeping here. I've seen him for maybe 2 hours cumulatively during this time - during which he has been very impatient with me - even about stuff we need to talk about regarding the agreement. Today it will be finalized and then the only other thing we need to do together is to go sign off on the house on June 8. He has an apartment as of June 1, but he hasn't given me a move-out date (when he actually comes and takes his stuff). He says they are painting it. I don't know how long that will take.

Anyway, I've been on such a roller coaster and I know that signing this agreement is going to trigger another downslide. I don't have any questions. I just need moral support today - it's going to be a long, hard day.

Hi tabby

I bumped you rother thread cos theres such great advice on there. I wrote you too.

It gets better from hereon....really

{{{{tabby}}}}

bump

I just realized I should change my sig. I am now officially and lawfully separated. I don't think the US works the same way as Canada. It's all about the separation agreement here - the actual divorce is a mere formality that is really only required if you want to marry again. The SA contains all the nitty-gritty stuff about division of property, custody, support etc. I've got one now and he's also signed off on the house - which won't take effect until June 8, but his signature is already on the page so it's done.

I'm so empty.

as soon as possible

go pitch black where he cannot speak to you

I forgot

did you write a Plan B letter?

hugs to you tabby.
it is no different here in the us. you can stay legally separated forever here if you want to, you only need the divorce if you plan to remarry. any GOOD legal seps have all of the details worked out in them like yours does. i know mine does.

one day at a time is all you can do.
wake up each day, pull yourself up by your boot straps, and carry on sweety. it is all any of us can do. each day will get better and better.

make a one year goal plan, that always helps me. if you have something to work towards it will keep your mind busy.

mlhb