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I know there are some great books out there to help couples build a strong marriage. What books would you recommend to read after the divorce is final to help a broken heart father of 3.
Me46
XW43
D19,D16,S10
M23yrs
Bomb Jan 23 07
D-Final May 1 07
XW still want us to be friends: Sunday I found out OM & XW are in love by logging on her email account. OM still with his W
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Tex,
Do you have any divorcecare.org groups in your area?
Keith
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I highly recommend divorce support groups for the adults involved, as well as the kids. Look in your local newspaper or ask a local clergyperson. I believe divorcecare also has kids programs, as does www.rainbows.com (and parents talk when their kids are meeting.) I highly recommend Mom's House/Dad's house to help with the little issues, and to help work through co-parenting issues.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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I didn't have divorcecare groups in my country, but I subscribed to the daily emails and they helped.
I do not blame the xwh for his affairs and abandoning our marriage. He fulfills 90% of the Cleckley Criteria
I forgive him for his insanity and I forgive myself for being gullible to his charms.
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Horn,
"Rebuilding When Your Love Relationship Ends", by Dr. Bruce Fisher helped me understand the building blocks to recovery and gauge where I was in the process. I pull it out every couple of months to see where I am in relation to where I was.
As Ruffled mentioned, the divorcecare daily devotionals are a blessing, too.
HL
Hardlesson
BS: Me (41)
FWW: XW (40)
Children: Three daughers (2, 10, 13)
DDay: 6/3/2006
M: 19 years
Divorced: 10/4/2006
Out of the valley of dispair and working my way back up the mountain.
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Loving What Is <---- (that's a link) by Byron Katie. Take a few minutes to "Search Inside" as Amazon permits. I think you will like what you read.
Married '85
Me: BS
D-Day 7/02
Plan B 5/03, 7/03
Numerous False Recoveries
I filed 2/06
Divorce Final 4/30/07
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I am newly divorced...8 days infact.
I'm currently reading 'New Life after Divorce...the promise of hope beyond the pain' by Bill Butterworth. I highly recommend it - especially as it's coming from a male point of view which you might appreciate. I'm female, and I sure did!
I've read your story, and I'm terribly sorry for your incredible pain. I can tell you from my own experience over the last 18 months since my separation and now divorce - let God come and rescue you. He KNOWS your pain like no-one else.
This is just one of many many scriptures that gave me courage and hope, I hope it will do the same for you:
He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings
you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield
and rampart.
You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day.
Because he loves me, says the LORD,
I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he
acknowledges my name.
He will call upon me, and I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble,
I will deliver him and honour him.
With long life will I satisfy him and
show him my salvation.
Psalm 91:4-5,14-16
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