nitram,

I can understand your position with respect to telling the OM's W. I don't agree with it, as I feel as the others do, they need to know.

Given that when you end all contact between OM and your W, the contact between your W and OM's W also needs to end. IF OM's W asks you why or your W why, YOU need to tell the truth, and so does your W. Don't become a liar, and your W should cease being a liar.

I think this goes for your other "friends". I can imagine that your heart is almost as torn by their betrayal of you as by your W. The very people that should have had your back, your W and your friends, stabbed you in the back.

I don't think revenge is part of recovery. But, I do think honesty is and I suspect you will be given the opportunity to be honest and you should be. So should your W. There are consequences to what she has done and she knows it.

Must go but think about it.

God Bless,

JL

back before internet and this forum, I would catch my H in what I felt was a lie, my famous line to him would be, "if I told 10 people this story they would think the same as me" the beauty of this is, you have all these people telling you what to do and you just don't get it. I will ask you again, are you really expecting the cheating H to tell the truth to his W? I also believe the truth should come from him and not you, but at the end of the day has he told her? or do you not care about another marriage that is possibly still in ruins and you know the truth! And I will also ask you again, wasen't the W a friend of yours?