Pep's BACK!!!

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Hi Pep, good to see you back.

God Bless,

JL

I am actually decorating our Christmas tree right now ! I am posting as a form of distraction from the huge pile of "stuff" in front of me ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Happy Holidays JL

Pep

Hi Pep,

I am supposed to be wrestling with a large misbehaving computer program, but felt the need to get away from it as well.

Happy Holidays to you and your family Pep. It is a joy to see you around these parts again.

God Bless,

JL

Apologies for leaving this thread unanswered, been a wee bit ill-good news is, I’m all good, bad news is I still have three weeks off work-and naffa to do.

Hello again Pep-warmest wishes to you and yours for the holiday season.

Mere -
I don't remember reading here at MB's that the principles won't work if it is an exit affair...

Well that is because it is an exit affair-DUH-what’s exit mean?
And..when I talk about expenses-it is emotional expenses-NOT FINANCIAL

OH –I just read your next sentence=off for a pill now.

For-Mel and Pep-

6. It is DEVASTATING to children! Your children need you now more than ever. You are ALL THEY HAVE since their mother’s brain has been abducted by aliens.

Just perfect!!!!

That is the voice of sanity/rationality.

Curious on No.5 stats too. You got a ref on that one?

Max

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the stats for number 5 are all over the internet if you care to look for them yourself MM.

OK, so why doesn't the spouse/parent involved in the 'exit affair' exit?

Exit the home or exit the marriage?

Mk-stats are all over the internet-latest research -1 in 5 young people are at some point have or are experiencing sexual assault.

The best protection we have to offer our young ones-is-education-

Good touch ,bad touch.....

Followed by stranger danger.

Sexual assault is across the board-there are no barriers. Wayward spouses or their partners are no more responsible for sexual abuse than any other groupings. If you have proof of this..then I am all ears.

I might add- Wayward spouses are people too.

Max

Ps...

Thanks Mel

Madmax, the risk of children being molested go up dramatically when the mother brings in dating partners/step fathers. Dr. Harley cites this research often on his radio show. And that fact stands unless you can disprove it.

No one said WS were not people....

p.s. you are welcome.

Any child outside of the two parent bio household is at increased risk MM. If you can't find this information, I suggest you bone up on your computing skills.

Radio shows are not much chop Mel....I live in the ranges eastwards of Brisbane.
I cannot hear them...and if I did, I doubt that a wayward spouse’s partner is more likely to effect sexual assault on a minor-then any other grouping. ...show me research references.

I will say again sexual assault is across the board. The best protection we have is educating our children. Scare mongering is not the answer.

Max

ps about what?

Bad boyfriends often abuse children of partners

By DAVID CRARY , AP National Writer
Sunday, November 18, 2007
NEW YORK (AP) - An ever-increasing share of America's children grow up in homes without both biological parents, leaving them nearly 50 times as likely to die of child abuse, according to research.

In many cases, the alleged or convicted perpetrator is the boyfriend of the child's mother - men thrust into father-like roles which they tragically fail to embrace.

Many scholars and front-line caseworkers interviewed by The Associated Press see the abusive-boyfriend syndrome as part of a broader trend that deeply worries them, particularly as an ever-increasing share of America's children grow up in homes without both biological parents.

"This is the dark underbelly of cohabitation," said Brad Wilcox, a sociology professor at the University of Virginia. "Cohabitation has become quite common, and most people think, 'What's the harm?' The harm is we're increasing a pattern of relationships that's not good for children."

There are many other studies that, taken together, reinforce the concerns. Among the findings:

• Children living in households with unrelated adults are nearly 50 times as likely to die of inflicted injuries as children living with two biological parents, according to a study of Missouri abuse reports published in the journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics in 2005.

• Children living in stepfamilies or with single parents are at higher risk of physical or sexual assault than children living with two biological or adoptive parents, according to several studies co-authored by David Finkelhor, director of the University of New Hampshire's Crimes Against Children Research Center.

• Girls whose parents divorce are at significantly higher risk of sexual assault, whether they live with their mother or their father, according to research by Robin Wilson, a family law professor at Washington and Lee University.

"All the emphasis on family autonomy and privacy shields the families from investigators, so we don't respond until it's too late," Wilson said. "I hate the fact that something dangerous for children doesn't get responded to because we're afraid of judging someone's lifestyle."

Census data leaves no doubt that family patterns have changed dramatically in recent decades as cohabitation and single-parenthood became common. Thirty years ago, nearly 80 percent of America's children lived with both parents. Now, only two-thirds of them do. Of all families with children, nearly 29 percent are now one-parent families, up from 17 percent in 1977.

The net result is a sharp increase in households with a potential for instability, and the likelihood that adults and children will reside in them who have no biological tie to each other.

MM, you are clueless about this. What professional experience do you have in this field? I have worked both ends of this...as a cop..and now with victims. What are the qualifications that you bring to the table...other than you ability to drone on about nothing...that make you qualified to speak on this topic.

Sorry, unless you produce something to make me think otherwise, Dr. Harley's citations stand.

Thanks MEDC. Hope that makes you feel better, MM. Dr. Harley was right, huh?