Jim...these are the reasons you have reached this point!
* You posted and LISTENED to what you were told.
* You read, in fact, STUDIED, "Surviving an Affair", and became well versed on the MB program.
* You EMPLOYED what you learned.
* You remained cautiously, but POSITIVELY OPTIMISTIC, in spite of the horrendous emotional ups and downs.
* You BELIEVED in what you were doing.
* You POSTED and READ thousands of posts, which reinforced all of what you were learning.
* You have GROWN as a human being and as a husband, are are better prepared for hiccups as they come in your marriage recovery.
* In short (rather ...in long <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> ), You BOUGHT IN to a program that is very counterintuitive and believed in your efforts. You had immense PATIENCE, and refused to be denied success in spite of events that make a BS wonder about their sanity for even trying. You PERSERVERED, in spite of what appear to be insurrmountable odds.
Folks, especially newbies, or those trying to "survive infidelity" by doing a half-a$$ed job at working the MB plan, take heart. This program works, and Jim worked it extremely well. And his journey was not without setbacks...like all of us he had many, and many of those are nearly debilitating. But Jim got back up, dusted himself off, and redoubled his efforts. That's why he's writing about this success today.
Cudo's Jim. Stay with Harley's principals, and your success will grow exponentially. You WILL, however, still have bumps along the way, and some of those things that made your marriage vulnerable "before" will become clear during this recovery journey. But you have the tools to fix these things, whereas you didn't necessarily have them before.
::::standing ovation::::: for Jim!
SD
