Sounds good!

My WW and I DO NOT have any join accounts period!

Her lack of dealing with the IRS during our first year of marriage sealed this deal!

My credit - good
WW credit - not so good

I will be making a phone call in the morning - hopefully OMW will be available!

But those were important thoughts too. And you have to admit Todd can be an [censored].

Pio are you talking to someone else here?

I was talking to KiwiJ about the best friend I have ever had. Sorry for the T/J.

And what if she isn't? What if OM answers? How will you get past him? What is your plan? If you reveal yourself to OM, he'll block the number. Call from a payphone.

I hope your sitch doesn't come to that point. If your WW swears to you the A is over and she will have no more dealings with OM, then I think that is an option. Your WW hasn't reached that point yet. I would stay on your Plan A until at least OM receives the fallout from your exposure to his wife.

The interesting thing about exposure is that it's a sure fire way of knowing there's still contact.

My sitch was different. I wanted my H to expose to save me from myself.

If the WS goes ballistic you know there's contact because, unless you tell your wife what you've done, there's only one other source of what you've done. The OP.

Will do!

I will call from a payphone in the morning.

If OM answers, I'll just hang up (I am sure he recognizes my voice from my past calls to him.

There is going to be some fallout when this next phone bill arrives next week and I see the 766 (and counting) text messages (I am sure most if not all from OM).

My current goal is to establish a 'track record' for trying to meet WW's needs, expose to OMW, wait until WW IC with Steve Harley on 12 July, then mine immediately afterward.

I'll await his instructions then buckle down on what I need to do.

See where KiwiJ said her sitch was "different"? Typical wayward thinking <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Do you have a female friend who would help you make the call? All she would have to do is get OMW on the phone. If a man calls and asks for your wife, well, awkward. If a woman calls, you don't give it a second thought.

Who's the [censored] now? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Bloody h3ll! I'm gonna go read that whole damn thing now.

p.s. Still searching for the right color GPS to match the excavator. Its a girl thing.

Swade...

You can just dial *67 before dialing the OMW's number, doing that will block their caller ID from being able to identify the call...

Chiming in to agree with everyone else...Yes, you definitely communicate to her that contact with OM is hurtful and disrespectful to you and that you will not tolerate that indefinitely-let her know that time is ticking...Be calm and matter of fact when doing this...Does she contact him in front of you? If so, you calmly tell her to take her adulterous calls outside of your home...

I also agree that you let OMW know exactly who you are...She may likely become your greatest ally in this...You never hide any exposure that you do-remember that you want the infidels to know about it, that is the point of exposure-it puts pressure on the affair and forces the affairees to see themselves through the eyes of others...It is a heroic measure that you are taking to try and save your marriage-Exposure is NOT an easy task...I applaud those that stand up and do it...It takes great courage and is honorable...Hold your head high and be proud!

Mrs. W

You should really ask BigK what he does for a living. It still shocks me that someone could actually make a career out of it. Yet he's milking it like a Jersey cow.

Can't you just tell me. Or would he be miffed?

Okay, lemme see. I'm guessing it's in the technical field, its obviously lucrative and likely an entrepreneur venture.

Am I warm?

He blows things up.

Swade, did you get hold of the OMW?

I like it! Annihilation Man. Does he have a specialty like antiquated high rise buildings?

Not sure. I think it's very boring, like quarries and that sort of thing.

Well at least his personality is suited to the job.

Not yet! I will make the call today.

Somebody help me make some sense of this:

Yesterday evening, I took family to the mall after spending the day taking son and friend to a water park. All I could think about was my W while there!

When getting ready for mall, I saw WW check her PDA cell phone and I reacted "childish" by simply walking out of the room and went downstairs to get dressed.

My WW asked me a question to which I did not answer as I was leaving the room. When she came downstairs, I told her, "I did not answer because I did not want to interrupt her checking her cell phone."

This is one of those "triggers" for me that I guess I need to manage better. I may be assuming she is checking for txt messages when she may be simply doing something innocent. After all, she does use her PDA phone for scheduling as well.

WW feels I am not going to change -- (not what I wanted to hear)! Meaning I am moody.

I admitted to WW when we came home from the mall that I am still hurt by the A that is going on and that as long as NC is not in effect, I will always be hurt. It is the A that has me reacting like this.

My WW tells me that she only hears from OM who is on East Coast about once a week. Of course, I do not know the nature of the discussion. I can also confirm this next week when the bill arrives. I cannot imagine from whom she has received 800+ txt messages since 1 June.

She also said that I am driving a wedge in our M with my "anger" issues (basically my outward countenance and not answering questions (this is usually when I see her with that cell phone close or when she goes to the store and return pretty late - between 1130 and midnight). Does not consist of shouting, yelling , or threats of any kind!

These are my main two triggers that I need to deal with and she does NOT help me deal with them.

I feel like I have to come to MB site such as now to vent because WW is not (perhaps cannot) provide any support in dealing with these issues.

Again, WW states I have no compassion and understanding (basically condoning) what WW is going through -- of course I DO!

Is this the fog I am trying to reason with? I do know that I do need to get a grip on my emotions.

This really feels like I am the one making all of the effort although WW says that she feels like she is on a "rollercoaster" ride with my emotions.

She warms up to me and we did later watch a movie and just chilled with a glass of wine and things were calm!

I cannot wait for her IC with S Harley on 12 July and mine afterward!

I am to the point of telling WW that "I am not afraid to lose her, beacause you cannot lose what you don't have!"

I have "bit my tongue" on this one though!

Somebody -- talk to me! If I am wrong please tell what I am doing so I can correct it.

I DO NOT want my mis-application of plan A to have the opposite effect of what it was intended!