My x-MIL (my divorce was finalised yesterday) sent my XH, his OW and I an email yesterday:

"We are sending this to all three of you after receiving (XH's) news yesterday. I think there will always be a sadness in this that our foundations in dealing with each other were diminished from being 'founded and rooted in Christ' by being hijacked too often and transplanted into the opinions of men. The sure truth is that if we continue to submit to live and move and have our being in Him, He will bring us into a fellowship that none of us could manufacture but will be His will. The sadnesses that brought things to this place on all parts are no less redeemable or forgiveable than any others - gossip, bullying, or any of the long list we can all name. I know that the greatest gift (2yo daughter)will receive in all of this is that nothing can separate her for either of your love which will give her the strongest assurance that nothing can separate her from God's love".

Would you respond or ignore her?

I'd wait for a sequel

don't respond

see what happends next

Yes, I'm quite sure there will be a sequel. This email is actually the sequel to her last one which said "maybe you should be thinking that God is graciously and mercifully bringing 3 people into (2yo daughter's) life who will love her"

I'm dumbfounded how a woman can site forgiveness to an OW who has never even apologised for what she's done. And I'm scared now that XH will use his mother's crap to tell me our daughter should and can now spend time with OW.

keep all this crap

you may need it

don't respond

she sounds a little ooffty-goofty

Religious verbal diarrhea from someone that has absolutely no idea of a true God's will.

Religious diarrhea....from an ex-pastor's wife. Truly scary...but this one is MILD compared to all the others. But this is the first time she's included OW.

I find this type of stuff so difficult to swallow. She ended the email with 'Mom & Dad'. So now OW must think this is sooo wonderful! She has the support of her 'boyfriends' parents, telling her that it doesn't matter if you're actually truly sorry for what you did, and it doesn't matter if you've even bothered to tell the wife you're sorry you wrecked her family...because you've got a God who's going to forgive you just as he forgives gossiping!

I do truly believe in a forgiving God...but thankgoodness He knows who's truly sorry.

I guess your MIL missed the part in the part in the Bible about adultery and corrupting the innocent. Sadly, exposing your DD to your H's sleazy affair partner will only cause moral confusion when she gets older. Does she want her granddaughter to grow up and be an adultress?

Your MIL is an enabling creep who does not help her son with her attitude.

Your XMIL also seems to be forgetting that true forgiveness requires repentance and repentance requires a change in behavior.

I hear a lot of verbal manipulations to make things sound less harmful that they are in wording such as "our foundations were diminished..." and "the sadness that brought things..." As an English teacher I would mark her down for being vague in her descriptions and not writing about the actual text, like a kid who uses a thesaurus to try and write big words, thinking I won't notice he didn't actually write anything worthwhile because he probably didn't read the book.

Her comments skirt the actual truth that adultery brought things to this place and God's word and His character do not change. "You shall not commit adultery" is not a suggestion. It's God's commandment.
"God hates divorce" is not a "oops! just kidding!".

Has your XMIL always been one who excuses her kids' immoral behavior?

I wouldn't justify this with a response. She'll just mangle it in her attempt to make this look good like her [email]c@#p[/email] about thanking God that your DD has three people in her life who will love her. Gross!

Can you program your email to say "You've got fog!"?

Might keep things in perspective.

UNBELIEVABLE!

crock-of-[censored]

don't validate with a response.

I would send your MIL an email that reads like this:

6. Thou shalt not commit adultery.

9. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife.

What part of this do you, WH, and OW not understand? It seems to be pretty cut and dried to me. To be given forgiveness you must first confess (OW - "what I did was wrong"), repent (cut off all contact with my husband), and ASK forgiveness (OW - "I'm sorry I had an affair with your H.") Otherwise you are still sinning. I don't know what scripture you are referencing, MIL, but this is what I'm basing my thoughts on, and I'm pretty sure God feels the same way. I'm sure he doesn't deem adultery okay once the ink dries on the divorce papers. Until then, I'll pray for you to stop supporting your son's adulterous ways, so he may be saved.

I like Jim's.

My Ex WW is still committing adultery with a MOM (After our D in Aug 2006) all the while wearing Christian T shirts, teaching bible school, singing in the choir, etc not in the least understanding that she cannot be forgiven until there is remorse, repentance, repulsion at the sin she has and IS committing to this very day. Same for MOM. They both act like they are part of the Oral Roberts Ministry and have no idea about God's forgiveness or commandments.

Amazing.

Keeping the commandments is our joyous duty...because we have been saved. That would include all 10, not just the "convenient" ones. Last time I checked, "Thou shalt not commit adultery" was still #7.

MIL = Monster-in-Law????