Hi, not sure how many people followed my original post. Some background. H has been sexually, emotionally and verbally abusive towards me. Accodrding to our MC he has been grooming me all these years. The final episode was him pressuring me to have sex with others including his brother. This led to my 6 month A with his brother (H knew about it and encouraged it to continue the entire time) and I ended it, as well as a secret EA with another man later.

Everything exploded and H went off the deep end threatening to comit suicide as well as we seperated for 5 days. We have been to MC and he has seen a sex addiction councelor once. We have HUGE obsticles to overcome to make this work. I have had NC with OM (the one with EA) since May 7th and have had extreme limited contact with his brother. This has been hard to do because I am still not getting my EN met by H.

Sooooooo things have been looking fairly positive with some major downs in between however last week everything has been going pretty good. The last couple days H has seemed very distant towards me. Last night I hugged him and made a flirty remark to him (this was something he has been wanting me to do much more of). He pretty much shot me down. Today I txt messegaged him and said I am needing physical touch from him. His response back was "well I tried to give you that 4 months ago". This hurt me badly and I feel deeply rejected. I am really trying and I feel like he is playing games.

I have ZERO contact with brother in law of OM so I have absoluteley ZERO needs being met. I am having a hard time and feeling very low right now. I started reading this book about emotionally abused wives and it is hitting me like a brick. It is so dead on and within the first paragraph I was able to see my situation. This is making things worse with him doing the crap he is doing right now. I just dont know what to do.

Tonight I am going to talk with him about this but I know it will end up being a huge fight. He just weined off of Paxil and started a low dose of Zoloft yesterday. Our MC thought that would help him better with suicidal thoughts. He is moodier right now, but I feel very upset at the moment...........sigh

Is this ever going to get better? I feel like the amount of changes we have to do are a HUGE mountain thats almost impossible to overcome. I am almost missing our old lifestyle because I was more numb and at least I was getting attention and EN met. This is hard. Where do I trn now??????

J

You are facing a huge mountain, and the way to overcome it is one step at a time. It sounds like you are doing the right thing, and it WILL be difficult. You just need to hang in there and do the right thing.

Glad to hear from you again. I've been out a while myself. Keep on keeping on, as this is not going to change overnight.