It's been months and months since I last posted here and I look back and appreciate how much I learned from people on this board. It feels like years ago that my now ex-wife left me for OM and sort of seems like it didn't happen at all in a lot of ways, but I know it did because it was grueling and I am no longer the same person because of it.
God has been working in my life as I turned more and more of it over to Him. Without God I would not be where I am today, almost fully recovered and looking with hope to the future.
I guess the reason I'm posting is because I want others who are either newly betrayed or still going through the churn of a strung-out affair or in the middle of a divorce to know that there are better days to come.
There were times when I could not see them, but I held fast to my faith and to what others who had been through it told me and I came out the other side a better, stronger, more mature, more loving and graceful human being than I ever knew or thought possible. So much of it depended on forgiveness of my wayward wife and, especially, myself.
What can I say? I could write on this subject for hours. I'm not sure if others reading this remember when I was on here, it was not pretty, it was brutal. I poured much of myself onto this website but received back in full measure all I was willing to work on, address, admit, believe, pursue, desire, repent, respect, allow and otherwise seek out.
A great release comes when we can find that root cause of our pain and give it to the Lord.
I don't know how I can help others who are at this moment dealing with the tremendous grief involved when betrayed by a spouse but just to say that there is a way to become whole again. There are better days ahead.
