My situation is this my wife has recently admitted to having an emotional affair with a Co-worker (6months ago) .I am not 100% sure that was all there was to it , mainly because she has lied so much I not sure what is truth and what is not. I have lot of emails and phone records that say otherwise. We are in counseling now but I recently pick up a voicemail he left at work. She says she loves me and wants to stay together. My question is should I ask her about the voicemail. In the past when I have exposed her emails she changed her passwords then one time she created another email account to communicate with him until I exposed it she stopped and uses what I suspect is the only email that I can’t see which is the company mail unless she brings her laptop home but of course now it mysteriously can’t work at home. Before she learned that I had seen her emails she used to bring and have no problems. Should I expose her affair her company. Should I call him and ask him to stop contact? I have all of his number s. or should I have her call him with me on the phone?

If she wants to end the affair

she rejects the co-worker

removes herself from all contact with him

and opens up her life to you,

forfeiting all secrecy.

If she refuses these things

Then the affair is not over (it is at most taking recess) and you should act accordingly.

(Spoken from experience.)

GC

you need to give more details about your marriage

how long?
kids?
other marriages?
other affairs?
any addictions?
and
how old are you?

Is the OM married? by the way, she is still in the affair and will be until she quits that job.