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Hi All,
So I recently separated from my H. We were M for 9 mos. when he began an A w/ OW. The A lasted 4 mos. He broke it off w/ her right before I discovered it. I stayed around for 6 wks. to try and rebuild but he was going through W.
I asked him to leave our apt. last wk. And he's been upset about the separation. I've already signed a lease on a new place and am moving at the end of the month. I just wanted to separate but a part of me still hopes we can work through this.
Right now, he is sorry about the A. Sorry he screwed up our lives. But he's still ambivalent about R. Meanwhile, I want to continue to live as a newly single woman. It hurts b/c I let him know that I'd like to start R and I wish he would jump right in and wholeheartedly commit but he hasn't.
He did the EN questionnaire. He's reading After the Affair but his mind is no clearer now. I suppose he's still in W after NC (7 wks). He says that he was "in love" with her.
Has anyone else so early on gone through this? No kids so it's easy to move on. I'm enjoying my new sense of "freedom" but I dearly wish we could work it out.
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