Hey, I'm not a troll at all. I never said that I was an expert at all, & I didn't say that I was going to beat anyone up (like I'm that kind of person). Pariah was the one who started all of this, & I don't want to be in arguments at all, & he thinks that he's a better person for calling me names. Well, you know what? I didn't come here to be bashed or insulted at all. If it makes you feel better, then go ahead, have at it. I won't be around to hear it much longer. Goodbye! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

PG,

How old are you? Are your parents going through some stuff right now?

I'm 25 years old. My mother is 44 years old, & I have never seen my birth father (I was raised without him). My mother had been involved with a man for 10 years, then he left her, all because she had me & my half-sister & half-brother (whom he has been living with his father his whole childhood). He's been promised to marry her & such, when he had no intention to do so. After that time, he left her & married another woman. Then my mother met another guy when I was about 16 (back in 1998). Later, on her 39th birthday (which was back in 2002), I believe, he was seeing another woman behind her back. He whispered in my ear to me about that, telling me not to tell her. But being gullible that I was, I didn't. She did manage to find out anyway, & she was very upset. They split up & she got an apartment, & I went along with her. Fast forward, My mother is living with my aunt & is trying to get back up on her feet (she won't be living there permanently). She's married to someone now, though he lives in Florida. I guess they were having some problems & needed to go their separate ways for now. She's also thinking about getting a house for herself & her husband.

PG,

I sense that you're going through a lot of pain from all that and are trying to make sense of it (your up-bringing) through this board. Is that correct?

Exactly.

Have you sought any counselling?

No, not yet. I don't have the money to do so.

If you belong to a church, you can usually go to a pastor or priest. Even if you don't belong to a church, they shouldn't turn you away.

My H and I went through marriage counselling last year. I ended up in IC when he was out of country and finally went to see my priest. The one session with the priest gave me more peace than ALL the counselling with a paid counsellor.

There are resources available, you have to look for them. What state do you live in?

I live in Virginia. I have some good churches that I know & I could go to see the priest or pastor about it. I haven't been to church lately because of work.

Do you have insurance through your work?

No. I currently work at a restaurant, & am thinking about finding a job with benefits & to make more money, like through a hosipital.

How about first thing in the morning you call one of those good churches you know about and make an appointment?

I'll check back with you tomorrow and see how you're doing.

Just a little encouragement...

God Bless you and help you get through this and find the answers you're looking for.

PG, if you are seeking help, why don't you post a thread describing your situation, rather than a thread stating how you can help others? Not only are you more likely to find the support you need, it is far more honest and straightforward. You are still very young and one of the most critical life lessons that can be learned is to ask for what you want, otherwise you get something else. It can be hard - openning up to complete strangers on the internet about personal problems does make you feel vulnerable at first. But it will achieve far better results. Hope you find what you are looking for.

Sorry about that. I had to run to work last night. I will definitely give them a call later on & I'll tell you all about it. I thank you for understanding me.



Hi, tabby. I wanted to apologize for acting crazy the other day. I think that starting a thread about it would be a good idea, & hopefully to get the support that I need (I'll keep that in mind). I'm sure that I'll find what I'm looking for, & to hopefully find peace & happiness.

Hey PG,

Did you set up your appointment yet?

I wanted to ask another question. What is your relationship like with your mom?

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Checking on you.

Hi! I want to inform you that I did manage to set up an appointment concerning my situation for this upcoming weekend. As for my relationship with my mom, it's always been good. She just constantly wants to look after me & to make sure that nothing bad happens to me, due to the rough neighborhood that I currently live in.

Good job on following through.

I understand how your mom feels. My DD (almost 19) also doesn't live in the greatest area of town; I just bought her some pepperspray for her birthday.

Thanks. I'll let you know how it went. I can understand that parents want to look after their sons &/or daughters, even when they're all grown up. Some can be very protective (My mother would sometimes call me on my cell phone & would leave messages through my voicemail). My 25th birthday was two months ago, on the 6th of June. Please, tell your daughter I said Happy Birthday to her when you get a chance!