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I am just going to be nice and pleasant around him and act like nothings wrong. Then I can break down after he leaves, but I don't want him seeing that. EXACTLY!! I think you understand how your emotions can harm your position right now and this is HALF THE BATTLE, TB! I am very proud of you for holding your emotions back!! You can come here and cry to us where it is SAFE. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I have not had a good day or weekend. I have been on a roller coaster of emotions. I was glad to get back to work today--That's sad!!! I am home alone until he brings the kids back on Wed. I am going to talk to him about keeping the kids so long.
I was thinking about packing the rest of WH clothes, shoes and other small things and putting them out in the garage. Should I do this or not? I want him to come back home and I'm afraid if I do this he will get the wrong impression.
WH is still staying with his stepmom and he has nowhere to keep all of his things. He has just taken enough to get by. My 6 year old said the other night "I know when daddy is coming home, when he runs out of clothes." That broke my heart, he just doesn't understand. WH still has a truck here in the driveway which I thought he would have gotten by now.
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WH came by after work today without calling and I got so excited. He did not have our sons with him, they were at his stepmoms house- where he is living. I thought maybe he had come to his senses and wanted to talk, but not so.
He came by to get something for our youngest son. He was nice and I asked him how work was today. He got what mail he had here and was on his way. He stayed for 10 minutes or less.
I am still trying to decide on whether or not to pack the rest of his things.
I'm thinking he is getting tired of staying at his step moms house. When I called to talk to the boys last night WH said he was watching Wheel Of Fortune. He would have never watched that at home.
I wish he would come to his senses!!!
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TB, don't pack up his clothes or signal to him in any way that you want him out. Focus on being attractive and make your home very welcoming. Keep it clean and pleasant.
But, you aren't going to get anywhere until you find out the truth, TB. Even if you have to hire a PI, you MUST FIND OUT. This is the KEY.
He will probably be anxious to see the OW the night he brings your kids back. Can you line up someone to tail him that night? I cannot emphasize the importance of this, TB! You must find out!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Your GREATEST WEAPON against the affair is the TRUTH. GEt the truth!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I am going to have someone tail him tomorrow night. I am dying to know the truth. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I had someone tail him on Friday night and she lost him because she got stuck at a red light. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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Should I ask him to call before he comes by?
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nooooooo. When he comes by you are HAPPY to see him!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I have some news. My brother went by WH business yesterday and said there was a blonde headed girl there that looked like a super model. She was following WH around and they were flirting.
My brother didn't get a name or anything. He thinks she drives a little blue car. We are going to try to get the tag #.
I want to know if there is A for sure before I see an attorney.
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I was able to get a copy of WH cell phone bill today. He used 1089 minutes last month and we now have a pretty good idea of who the OW is.
On cell phone bill there were 3-4 calls that were over 100 minutes and he has been calling her early in the morning and late at night. I was able to look OW up in computer at work and she does not look like girl that my brother described from yesterday. The girl he saw had blonde hair and the girl from the cell phone has brown hair. I'm wondering if it may be someone living with her.
He has been talking to her since before he left home according to cell phone bill.
I called WH today B4 he left work and asked him to drop the kids off at my moms. My friend and I from work found OW house. WH went home after dropping kids off and never did leave. My friend and I waited for about an hour waiting on him to leave his moms. I thought he would be seeing her tonight since he didn't have the kids.
We also got a tag # from a car that was parked in driveway at OW house.
We are making progress!!!
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ok, you are on the right path! When you get the goods, come here so we help you use this to your best advantage. Good girl!
can you run the tags?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ML:
Yes I can run the tags. We also think the OW is married or separated and has a little girl.
I will need help exposing the A after I have all the facts.
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She may be seperated because of the affair, so it will be important to find her H also. That shouldn't be very hard. Can you find her H's name?
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ML:
I know her H name and where he works. I just have to make sure that this is the right girl.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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WH brought me a copy of seperation papers yesterday. I have not received any papers from his attorneys office and it has been 2 weeks.
I told him I just had 2 interests and that is the kids. He knows I'm going to an attorney today and asked me what I was planning on doing.
The papers are not very professional and has a lot of mistakes. I'm wondering if they have been printed off of internet. WH is wanting Joint Custody of kids and pay half of what he should for Child Support.
WH is going to give me the house including 2 mortgages and all other household debts.
We are almost positive that we know the OW and she has a little girl.
I have been dropping little hints that I know about the OW. He can't even look at me and keeps his head hung around me.
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TB, have these papers been filed? If not, toss them in the trash. He is just trying to get you to cooperate in a D scheme. Make him work for it. Don't sign anything. Don't hint about the OW at all. Just find out what is going on and EXPOSE the affair, TB! WH is going to give me the house including 2 mortgages and all other household debts. He is trying to leave all the debt and mortgages with you?
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ML, I don't think the papers have been filed and I'm not signing anything until I see an attorney. The papers are a joke anyway and have numerous mistakes.
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and most likely his girlfriend typed them for him.
Do not cooperate in any way about a divorce. Make him do all the hard work. And make him pay through the waa-zoooooo!
Only see the attorney to protect you and your kids.
Get what you can financially from WH without divorcing him.
He needs to support his children.
Get ready to expose this to OW's husband!
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Take the papers to the attorney. He can find out if their legit with just a phone call.
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