Great news in the Frog house.

My mom is completely clean. Of course she hasn't fully recovered from her surgery but things are going well.

Cedars Sinai took good care of her. The removed the lobe of the lung with the cancer and then ran tests of her lymph nodes and no cancer. So now there seems to be no need for the CHEMO. I am so happy.

BAD NEWS

Well on the other side. Wife is already having problems with the pregnancy so it is touch and go.

We are in a wait and see mode on this but she is now officailly an at risk preganancy.

So I just can't seem to get a break here.

LOL. New day new problem. But no matter what comes my way I can handle it.

Still looking for whoever life is handing the Vodka to.

If you are that person please see me after work today.

Frog, that is very good news about your mother, and I hope her recovery is swift!

I'm sorry to hear about the turn with your FWW's pregnancy. Life does keep doling out the work, but you can handle it. If I can find the holder of the vodka, I'll send them your way...

Hi, Frog, good to hear on mom...

can I ask how far along FWW is? I must have missed it...I'm sorry...I hope things work out for the best...

keeping your Family in my prayers! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

SL,

Thank you. Well at least I know you aren't the holder of the Vodka.

SB we aren't exactly sure on where she is yet. Not far along though. Tops a month and a half.

We shall see.

Oh and SL I was thinking about you today. I see you posting to others but no news from you.

HOW the heck are you??

why is she considered high risk now?
mine was all along because i had twins. that is an automatic risk pregnancy. but hers?

mlhb

Thanks Frog,

Just returned from vacation at the beach, and WHAM, I throw my back out (recurring problem--hasn't happened for a couple of years, though), so I'm hobbling around and on some meds right now. I stubbed my toe on Wednesday, and it is purple, but not broken, so I'm in a little pain there. Nothing I can't handle.

Recovery is strange, very slow. My guard is still way up, I must admit. I don't expect that to change for a while. PWC is doing what seems like the bare minimum right now, but I think it's early for any sweeping gestures. I feel like I could be doing more, and had a plan for that, but then my back went out. I planned on recreational time together. Chucking the frisbee around, sitting out on the deck at night and talking. The meds make me sleepy, but I cannot avoid taking them if I want to get better. Just a slight dip on the tracks right now.

When we dip, I push that wall back up a bit, because I expect that he will be foggy and run. He's proving me wrong, which helps, but I just don't see it being wise to accept things as they are. I must keep on keepin on. We've been lazy about our 15 hours minimum, not really doing anything that is fun, mostly watching TV or sometimes talking. We had a long bath time conversation at the beach. It was nice, but I found myself being uncomfortable after a little while. It's so odd not trusting him; I used to trust him so blindly. I almost feel guilty for not trusting him; like I'm hurting his feelings, but it is what it is.

I really should be posting to my thread, I know. I'll see if I can't find some time this weekend. Things don't happen very quickly, just small tidbits, triggers here and there. I'm feeling particularly down about things right now, but I'm attributing much of those negative FEELINGS to PMS. I'm much more positive after the first few days pass. I continue to tell myself that I am the only person that I can control, so if I want a question answered or something done, I must vocalize it.

My concern, is that PWC doesn't commit fully to recovery, and we stall out. I really do want this to work, but it takes two. I don't FEAR it. Anyway, I think we're doing OKAY, but I feel like I could be doing more, as well as he could be doing more, so that is something we need to work on.

Hey Frog I am happy to hear things are going well with your mom. I am also sorry to hear your W is having trouble with the baby. I was wondering how everything was going with you. Prayers changed things for your mom. I know they will do the same for the baby. Have you guys to your DS's? How is everything else with all of you?

SL,

That is great. I have found the whole thing to be pretty boring except for stuff like this. No sweeping gestures, no fireworks. Just the return to being comfortable.

I am glad to here it is at least not going backward. Nice job with the back and the toe. LOL.

I keep helping with baseball and my back is pretty much always sore but not out.

Yes you should update your thread!!

ML,

I don't know exactly how to explain it. She had spotting they identified there was/is a blood vessel/vein that is leaking? Not life threatening to her but it is by the baby. If it heals or doesn't bleed it should be ok. But it isn't healed yet and it may not. She has to take it really easy and hope for the best.

I don't know all the technical terms but that is what she has been adivsed.

Sound right?

Well thanks.

DIG thank you for stopping by too. I don't usually post much on my own thread.

OH and I a may be back IN MC. LOL. Keep you updated on that.

LMAO...Oh frog...wishing you the best man...the very best!

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Frog, how's the little momma, you, and the boys holding up?

Everything still okay with your mom? She's getting around good, feeling okay...


Just thinkin about you and all that you've done for me...words can't explain how much I appreciate you and your words of wisdom...and LMAO...how angry you got Friday...

So, I named POWS right on the money huh? I really would classify him in your sec of the male species...you know survival of the fittest...doesn't really fit with his personality...

ANyway, I hope that DW is doing alright...Take care!

Rin,

Thanks for asking!!!

My mom is doing great. She is so darn lucky things really worked out for her. Thre are so many little stories within the big one.

We joke around because she says she is so tired. I told her well she is exercising more now then ever. She walks a mile and a half in the morning then a half a mile in the afternoon and night because of the heat.

The tests came back no chemo needed. She looks great you would never know.

With the prgnancy we are waiting. She has had bleeding so it isn't a good thing. She goes in for another ultrasound this week.

My kids start camp today, it is a day camp. Sounded fun.

OS has started to see the light it seems.

YS is still playing baseball LOL made the all stars. This commitment is dragging the life out of me.

I am doing well.

As far as your STBX, that part of your life is a lesson. Remember one thing you have two wonderul children if not for him they woundln't be here.

Sounds like it might be your mom. Glad to read she is doing well.

Weaver,

Thanks. Never thought about mom having the Vodka didn't look there!!!! LOL.

MOM'S GOT THE VODKA, NOW THAT MAKES SENSE...LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Good to hear the news...I'm sorry that YS's activity is wearing you thin...OS's coming around...good to know!

All in all not bad...

I'm sure it will all come together...

No more rain clouds, i hope!

Do you believe in Murphy's LAw? LMAO

Rin,

My FWW's mom's maiden name is Murphy. So you best beleive I believe. LOL.

Yes Now that my FWW and I are coparents it seems to be making things better.

We punish him quicly and fairly. Which makes a big difference too.

We don't say you are grounded for 2 years. We say go to your room and sit and think about it. I have told the FWW I would prefer no more yelling with him and she agrees it doesn't work.

He has been without video games and computers for a while. We agreed he could have an hour a day if he does a half an hour reading.

Now if he gives us a hard time he loses the games the next day no questions.

He is picking up more slack too. He is trying more.

I think two more weeks with Ys then I get a break. LOL.

All in all it is great.

I work 20 minutes tops from home and the field so I stop on teh way home.

It is nice to be able to be involved.

How awesome is that!!!! LMAO

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So a little update.

My FWW got Fired by her Sponsor so a little over a year and a half of sobriety and she is still on step 3.

Her Sponsor got tired of it and gave her an ultimatum work your steps or go find another sponsor.

I don't feel great about that. I have tried to be patient with the process but this is just not ok with me.

Her Sponsor even went as far as to tell her she is Dry and nothing more.

She looked to me for support and I couldn't enable her. I just said you know it isn't a 3 step program.

The kids and I make sacrafices for you to got to meetings but if you aren't going to work your steps should we continue to make sacrafices.

Any way.

We also had a little argument last week.

She wanted to do something I asked her not to, she did it anyway.

It had to do with my sister.

There was really no good possible out come and I told my FWW that.

My sister has been a hugh advocate for my FWW. So my FWW says something my sister gets upset.

I call and apologize to my sister. She tells me what happened.

Now my FWW is mad because I didn't just beleive her.

I told my FWW she doesn't get it.

I asked her what harm would it do for her not to say something. She said none. I said then fine why do it when I asked you not to.

She of course brought it around to her family and how I don't let her see them.

I clearly articulate that her affair was where her family live. I never said she couldn't go back. I wasn't comfortable with her going back right away. There was also the fact we couldn't afford the trip that played into it.

She got mad said I keep bringing up the A.

I said that isn't fair to say. You make it seem like I am a mean person because I won't let you go back to your family but you won't discuss why.

Anyway rambling a little.

The baby is due in late January. We are discussing a planned C section because YS was C and it appears to be the safest route to go with this one.

Mom is doing great.

Job is great.

Personal growth is going great. I was suprised that my first reaction wasnt' to take my FWW's side over my sister.

I guess my co dependant, conflict avoiding, enabler is slowing disappearing in the rear view mirror.

Frog,

I wish I had some great pearls of wisdom, alas, I do not. You are not an enabler, and you stated that she is not working the programs. Not to be gruff, but it really IS her problem; her choice. Is there something about AA that FWW doesnt' like, or is it just lack of interest, OR unwillingness. She's coming up on step 4, MORAL INVENTORY. That's a tough one. Have you sat down and spoken to her about what her fears are here?

I am so happy to hear that your mom is doing well. I am so happy to know that you are doing well. I want to thank you for all of your honesty and attention. It means the world to me, when I post, and you get back to me, with guidance. I only hope that I give as much as I get.

Frog,

Good to hear from you.

All I can add is "Hang in there."

We're still here when you need us.

Still praying for you all.

Mark