I have been looking around the site and see that the ws needs time to go through withdrawl period. How much time do you give them. She says she doen't want to talk or communicate with him anymore but every once and a while she misses talking to him. The letter that Dr.Harley talks about sending the other person worries me. I fear that one email or letter will trigger a response from him and she may be drawn back into the whole mess again. Is there any danger in sending one last goodbye letter??? We started MC this week and I pray it works. The last time I forgave her and we just ignored the fact that it happened. We didn't go to see a counselor or even really talk about it. I was guilty of bringing it up as my trump card when we fought though. WE both want things to be different this time and never have to have these feeling again. Any advice or answers would be great:)

The letter shouldn't be for the purpose of saying goodbye but to emphatically state that there will be NC ever again of any kind. Also, you should appove everyword that goes into the letter.

I recommend that you pick up as many of Dr. Harley's books as you can. We own almost all of them but only read part of SAA, and now we are having to start all over.

Take it from me, this has to be the most important thing in your life, no kicking the program down the road for when you have more time.

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