....TM WH asking him to have the boys call me?

They left Weds. night for North Dakota and I haven't heard from them at all. I'd like to know they made it there safe and sound....and honestly, I'd like to just hear their voices.

Opinions?

Can you get your friend to text him? Maybe your sister?

Want me to text him for you? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The drawback I see is he may see this as a way to get you to break it- if he doesn't have them call, then tomorrow you might call instead of text.

I thought you were going to get a cell phone for them - if you haven't you sure need to do that. That would take care of all of these kinds of things. You can add one for 10 on most plans and share minutes.

get someone else to text him that you would like to have the kids call you. when i call my kids, we have it set up that the kids just answer his phone, we don't talk at all.

get someone else to do it, then when they get back, get them a trac phone or something.

mlhb

Sis:

Now you know what is happening to WH when the boys are with you.

And you have been encouraging the boys to contact/get in touch with WH. Buy gifts, etc. It's Up to the Boys. And they won't cause they are young.

Get them a cell phone.

Please?

And yes, WH can bury his emotions in RT. It's an escape. For him. But won't be foreever.

LG

Yeah...I'll just sit tight. My nature, you know...do, do, do.

This may be some of what WH experiences, but I can see how it would be much easier for him. My reality is the constant buzz of their peeping little voices, their sweet smiles, the driving to and fro, the warm hugs, the little wilted flowers they bring me, the pictures they draw me, watching them play together nicely.

It is also the arguing, the need for PB&J, ice cream fingerprints, grit on the floor, dirty socks like dandelions appearing randomly and seemingly out of nowhere.

I'm not sure that WH requires the first in any greater quantities than he is getting. He surely doesn't ask for it. And if one is only marginally interested in the first, then the second isn't even on the radar screen.

I've avoided the phone thing because I don't think they are ready for it. It's sort of a status thing right now for DS11, and I don't want to feed into that, even for a "good reason."

Secondly, I have no doubt that WH (or BIL/SIL for that matter) would allow them to call if they asked...I should have instructed them to call me when they arrived, just like DS11 did when he got to DC on the school trip. That would have solved the whole issue.

They are just so engaged in their own thing--playing with cousins, going to see the Blue Angels--that it probably doesn't occur to them to call.

They'll call eventually. I'll survive.

yep

you did an excellent job of self-soothing here

congratulations!

sis, just so you know with the phone thing... you only let them use it to call you when with wh and to call wh when with you. otherwise, the phone is put away and not to be used, not to be carried around, etc.... they could bring it with them to call you when with your wh and bring it back home to call wh when with you. and they don't each need one, they can just share the one.

mlhb