MEDC is that a bastardization of the POJA that I hear??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

yep...and if Pio would just smoke a joint, he would agree with me. Joint agreement.
Hey, anybody got the munchies?

Okay, back to our regular programing.

BWAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA...Okay, you're right, back to the "regular programming", but NOT before I ROTFLMAO! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

Okay, you're right, back to the "regular programming",

Yes, please. You guys seem to find yourselves very entertaining...

And you don't? Lighten up Francine...<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

Aph-

You're coming up with some great EXCUSES for not telling your husband...

Note that they're not great REASONS for not telling him, but excuses...

There will NEVER be a good time to tell him about your cheating. NEVER. There can always be some good reason why you shouldn't tell him right now..."I'm worried about what he'll do"..."He needs to get a job first"..."He's go so much stress from his new job"..."Fluffy the cat just had kittens"...

You'll be able to justify to yourself reasons to put this off forever. And none of them really mean anything. In the interim, your husband will continue to be living a LIE with you for that entire time. You can rationalize not telling him 'right now' to your heart's content. You can convince yourself that you're doing it "for him".

But that's all just rationalizing for yourself. Do you REALLY want to fix the damage you've done with all these affairs? REALLY???? Then quit justifying. Quit rationalizing. Quit postponing. You will make not one bit of headway towards fixing anything until you take that first, HUGE step. Telling your husband.

This is bigger than him looking for a job. This is bigger than ANYTHING else in your lives right now. The sooner you realize that...the sooner you REALLY take a step towards making those changes you've talked about, the sooner you REALLY stand a chance towards repairing your marriage.

Until you do...it's all talk. And that's ALL it is. You know it is...because you've not taken a single true step to STOP yourself from going right back to where you were before. Once you tell your husband...you'll not have the "option" of cheating without him knowing again. That removes that from your life as an option.

But until you do that...this is all just an interesting diversion at most.

CALL YOUR HUSBAND TODAY. TELL HIM YOU NEED TO TALK WITH HIM...ITS URGENT!! Have him get back to where ever he's staying, and then sit down and tell him the truth of all of this, tell him WHY you're admitting it, and what you're hoping to work out from here.

Anything less is just postponing it for your OWN reasons, not his.

Great post Owl! I agree with you 100%...I sincerely hope that Aph gets it...

Mrs. W

P.S. I'm cracking up over "fluffy the cat had kittens"! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I responded to Aph's first thread but then stopped. Why? I think she is a troll. I even think she might be someone who use to post here frequently, but got the boot... I could be wrong. I don't think Aph wants help and I don't think she is in pain. IMHO, I think she just wants attention, and she is getting it.

I've wondered too Katie, but for some reason have held out some hope...Are you thinking IWRA et al?

Mrs. W

EXACTLY. So with that, I respectfully bow out of this thread. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

you really are a windbag aren't you?

I gotcha and I understand, but I do think that Aph writes more intelligently than the aforementioned group...There is another here that I do suspect as the IWRA Troll-she's one that likes to get into email relationships with others and I am very wary and have declined multiple attempts at that myself...Dunno...Time will tell I suppose...I respect your decision Katie...

Mrs. W

MEDC...

Here is my take on FCF...She sits crouched in the sniper position waiting to take shots at those truly trying to help rather than actually doing any of the helping herself...Her desire is to enable and support foggy thinking because that is where she remains-helping others to justify and rationalize soothes her own conscience...As I said before on this thread, MISERY LOVES COMPANY...

Mrs. W

ETA: She also forgets that the poster matters too!

I'm tellin Uncle Steve Harley!

Pinocchio wanted to be a real boy in the worst way, but he had some lessons to learn before that would happen. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Did Pinocchio smoke the ganja? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />


Reeeespect,
Jo

Well...it would be interesting if Aph is IWRA...

Because that whole spiel I just gave on telling her husband is pretty much the exact same thing I told IWRA on Cardsonly's thread back then.

Deja moo?

What the heck's a ganga?

Ganja = Pacalolo, Weed, Joint, Marijuana, Hooch

I hope that Aph's for real and that she's looking to change. I really do.