Hi everyone,

I just wanted to give some encouraging news which I hope lifts everyone's spirits and reminds you all that the affair DOES end.

I thought my XH's would be different. It had been going on for 2.5 years and involved international moves on the part of OW when my XH and I separated and we moved to back to my country. They've been living together since Christmas last year.

However, he broke the news to me yesterday that 'she' has returned to her country. Two cheers to that! May she never step foot on this wonderful soil again <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Keep going everyone. Your day WILL come. I never imagined mine would and here it is.

Wow, aNewName, that is so good to hear! I don't know your story as I am a newbie but will be sure to look it up. It gives everyone hope to hear things like this.

Are you and your XH back together?

Hi Tarnsy, no..we're not back together. Infact the divorce (which I decided to file for) will be finalised in 2 weeks. To cut a long and painful 18 month old story short...I just knew it was over, and now I'm getting on with my life.

I've just read your story by the way, and I really feel for you. But I promise...you will get through this.

Thx ANN, glad to hear that you are getting on with things and hope that the future is looking rosy. It's sad that sometimes D is only way to go forward but you sound like you are in a good place now.

Thanks for the encouraging words. My XH is not in an affair as such, but a relationship that bears striking similarities. I was in a post-M relationship too, and I can attest to a lot of A-type stuff - and my R did end, resulting in my wanting my XH to come home. I'm just a bit farther along the learning curve than he is at the moment.

His GF moved back from whence she came just over 2 months ago, but he's preparing to spend his vacation with her, leaving just about a week from now. I'm hopeful that it will fizzle out either during or shortly after his vacation is up... after all what's left to look forward to after that?

I'm hoping that eventually he catches up on that same learning curve and comes to the same conclusions that I have... and I'm working Plan A to try to show him that his home and family are still here for him - should he choose us.

It's hard - very hard... one way or another I see his R ending soon, but I don't know if he does. Unless he moves to be with her (which would be economic and emotional suicide, IMO), I think his relationship is at a stalemate.

The variable I can't determine is whether he's even considering "coming home" as an option at this point. Doubtful as he's still so wrapped up in his GF <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I know it will end eventually - it's just hard to sit back in the wings and wait.

JinGA